The root cause of a person's bad life: wanting too much, not being open

time:2023-01-29 08:02:22source:novahomeonline.com author:Unexpected situation
The root cause of a person's bad life: wanting too much, not being open

01 There is such a real case: The reader Bo Bo has been very upset recently because of whether to reconcile with her mother-in-law. She had a falling out with her mother-in-law a few years ago. The aunt had a fight. When we quarreled, it was hard for everyone to speak. The eldest sister said things like "I'll let my brother divorce you" and "Believe it or not, I'll hit you". After the eldest aunt picked up her mother-in-law, she never let her mother-in-law take children again. She hated her mother-in-law and the eldest aunt in her heart and regarded them as enemies. For six years, she hasn't met her aunt and mother-in-law, and she always let her husband go back by himself. The eldest sister sent her a bag afterwards, and also took the initiative to send her a text message, saying that she was too reckless back then. What troubles the bottle is that she has a second child and needs someone to help her. Her husband is thinking about how to ease the relationship between the family members, and also wants to take advantage of the big happy event of the birth of the second child and let the eldest sister and mother-in-law come. Sitting at home, and then continue to let the mother-in-law help with the child. The husband discussed with her in advance, and did not decide by himself, and the husband also called his sister, meaning to ask his sister to say good things to the bottle steps. For some reason, she mentioned the incident again, and the eldest aunt denied that she had said too much about the bottle. Then the bottle collapsed a bit. The source of her pain in the past six years was the injury caused by her aunt, but this pain was not worth mentioning in the eyes of the aunt. She suffered for so long, but people had long forgotten it. this thing. The bottle felt that she couldn't pass this threshold, and she didn't know whether to reconcile with her aunt and mother-in-law. Let's analyze the bottle first: bottle is a person who likes to harbor hatred after quarreling, so in the past six years, she has also regarded her mother-in-law and aunt as thorns in her eyes, thorns in her flesh, and her enemies. She often thinks of the excessive things her aunt and mother-in-law have done to her, and the words they have said are particularly excessive. Every time she recalls, her hatred for them deepens. Especially in the past six years, she didn't let her mother-in-law bring her children, but her mother helped to bring them. She suffered so much and hated her mother-in-law even more. But have you ever thought that we always harbor hatred, can we live well? No one else remembers it, but you still remember it deeply, hate it, why bother? How much hatred, how much hatred, is it worth your brooding? In addition, the eldest sister sent her an apology text message and gave her a bag, and this matter can pass. Now that you have accepted it, people also think that that hurdle has passed long ago. As a result, you took the gift from others but still brooded and didn't let yourself go. Isn't this torturing yourself? It's too open, which has caused me to have a bad time these years. What to do with the bottle? Don't mention what happened back then, it's the past when it's over, there's no need to argue over who is right and who is wrong, there's no need to ask your mother-in-law to apologize to you, and there's no need to hold on to your aunt's mistakes back then. To forgive others and forgive others is also to let go of yourself. People, many times, you have to live a little more openly and let go of hatred, so that you can live well. What is the source of bottle pain? It is because she is not open-minded and obsessed too deeply. 02 Let me say one more thing. I am a self-media of graphic and text. When short video development was not so fast in the past, our income was still good; but since short video live broadcast has developed rapidly, our income has become less and less. There is a colleague of mine. In fact, his income is okay, but he is very anxious. He is obviously much stronger than me, but he still complains to me often: the situation is not good, and the income is declining, what should I do? I compared our earnings gap, and I felt like he was rubbing salt in my wound. I comforted him: "It's good to be like this now, you can make yourself a good one." But he still said, I'm under a lot of pressure. He is the kind of person who will come to you to complain about how miserable he is when he eats 30 yuan of takeaways, so I scolded him: "What's wrong with you, although your income in a month is not as much as before, no Do you still have 30,000 to 40,000 yuan? You can earn 30,000 to 40,000 yuan a month, and 30 yuan for takeout is too expensive. You can eat whatever you don’t want, and how much it can cost you. I can hardly get a monthly income now. Five thousand, are you miserable with me?" We seldom contacted after that, maybe I scolded him, and he seldom complained to me. He is the kind of person who wants a lot. He likes to compare himself with others, and he is a little vain. He likes to let everyone praise him for his ability and ability to make money. Looks like a lot of pressure. As for me, although my income has dropped a lot, I have adjusted my mentality and don't care that much. I stopped working for a month in July because I had to take care of my children. I'm also anxious, but at this stage I can't let myself be anxious, because if I'm anxious and tormenting myself, I'll be very miserable. I simply stopped thinking about work and how much money I could earn. For me, as long as I could still earn some money to buy groceries, my desire was reduced. When I realize that excessive desires can be psychologically tormenting, I automatically lower my desires. To be content and happy, people can’t want everything, you want too much and you can’t get it. Isn’t it a burden for yourself? And the fact that Jia Qianqian entered the Writers Association to cite controversy some time ago was also because she wanted everything. As a second-generation writer, she can just lie flat, but she doesn't want to be the second-generation writer, she has to prove that she is very talented, and she has to join some Writers Association. Don't you know how many kilograms you have? If you write a poem like that, you still have to join the Writers Association. Of course, netizens won't accept you, because you don't have the ability and talent, and you have to fight with others. What are you fighting for? Just because you have a father named Jia Pingwa? People, you must have a clear understanding of yourself, don't want everything, and don't force it. 03 If you carefully observe the people around you, you will find that the source of a person's pain is mostly caused by wanting too much and not being open. Some people seem to you to have a good life, but they are not satisfied and want more. As a result, they lack the ability, and it is easy to cause trouble for themselves. There are also people who are too obsessed and have been living this life with hatred, why bother, those people are really not worth remembering for a lifetime. We often hear feudal feud, what feudal feud cannot share. I'm a little disgusted with this word now, because when I mature, I know that there is no hatred worth remembering for a lifetime, let alone with my mother-in-law. Think about it, you want to continue to live with her son, and you hate his mother so much, do you think you can live well? To learn to let go, to learn to open up, to learn to think openly. I hope you can have less desire, don't want everything, if you want, don't be too obsessed, and live your life with hatred. If you do this, you will be very peaceful and happy. Today's topic: Are you a vengeful person? Welcome to leave a message. - END - ★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing warm emotional things in this world.
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