"My mother-in-law passed away, we can finally get a divorce", husband: Divorce is possible, but with conditions

time:2023-01-29 13:36:59source:novahomeonline.com author:Harmonious family
"My mother-in-law passed away, we can finally get a divorce", husband: Divorce is possible, but with conditions

I have wine and tea, if you have a story, come to me. Click "Follow" above, you are my person. 01 Hugo "Notre Dame de Paris": "The human heart can only accommodate a certain degree of despair. The sponge has already absorbed enough water. Even if the sea flows over it, it cannot add a drop of water to it." Some When people are in despair, they will choose to give up their existing life and stay away from the source of their despair. And when some people are desperate, they will wait for the arrival of hope with luck. Ideally, as long as the source of your despair is gone, you will have hope. But the fact is that there is often more than one source of despair in a person. You think that after all the hardships, you can usher in hope, but you don’t know that when one factor of despair disappears, another will be filled in instantly. For example, in marriage, some people fall into despair because they do not have a good mother-in-law. They thought that life would usher in hope until their mother-in-law dies, but they finally survived all the hardships, but in the end they found that even without a mother-in-law, their life is still Despair, because there is more than one factor that leads to my own despair. 02 I used to despair because I didn't have a good mother-in-law. If it wasn't for the children, I would have fought my life to turn against her, and I would have divorced. It is because of the fact that I have children that I dare not act rashly, for fear that it will have a bad influence on the children. In addition, when my mother-in-law bullied me, I felt no other pain, and I believed that the only reason I fell into despair was my mother-in-law. For the sake of my children, I have always swallowed my anger. Occasionally, when I couldn’t take it any longer, I deceived myself and told myself: “Anyway, my mother-in-law is old, she has done a lot of evil, and sooner or later she will be punished. When I survive until she dies, I will be free.” I I even made an agreement with my husband that after my mother-in-law dies, we will divorce no matter what, even if the relationship is not broken, we will divorce, not for anything else, but to fight for ourselves so that we can be the master of our own life. There are people like my mother-in-law who interfere in my life. Every time I talked about this topic, he would follow my words and let me do everything, and lied to me that he had wronged me, and he respected my choice at that time, which was my compensation. However, when it came to the end, he turned his face and refused to recognize the person. 03 Frankly speaking, when my mother-in-law died, I was not sad at all. I cried not because I was sad, but because the grievances accumulated in my heart finally had a chance to vent. The thought of how soon I would be free again made me excited. After finishing my mother-in-law's funeral, I mentioned our agreement with my husband: "My mother-in-law passed away, and we can finally get a divorce. I hope you can tell me and let me live!" I thought he would readily agree. , but he said: "Divorce is possible, but there are conditions: we must wait until the children get married and start a family, and we can divorce without any worries. When my mother was still alive, with her supporting the family, I don't have to think too much. Now she After she passed away, the burden of this family fell on me, and I suddenly understood her. If I want to maintain this family, I must do what she did in the first place. When the door of hope opened for me, after listening to what he said, the door of hope closed again in an instant. At this time, I felt an unprecedented sense of depression. When my mother-in-law made me despair, I was still lucky; now he makes me despair, and I can no longer see hope. 04 I think I can't bear it anymore, I can't drag it any longer, I must stop the loss in time. The stop loss is not only for me, but also for the children, because I am raising the children from beginning to end, and if I fall, the children will be seriously affected. When my mother-in-law was here before, I was lucky, and secondly, I was worried that if I was angry with her, she would cheat others, so I didn't dare to turn my back on her. But it doesn't matter if she passes away, all the problems have become the problems of our husband and wife, I no longer take chances, I don't worry about him getting sick, I just want to think about me and the child. What makes me regret is that I risked everything to make trouble with him, only to find that it is so simple to stop the loss in time. It is not difficult to imagine that my mother-in-law is also a person who bullies the soft and fears the hard, but when I turned against her and insisted on divorce with my child, she did not dare to stop me, but I dragged on for so many years because of my cowardice, which is really sad. But now that everything has already happened, regrets won't help. All I can do is to live a good life for myself and my children in the future. There is no need to be afraid of anyone and anything. If anyone can't get along with me, I can't get along with anyone else; whoever doesn't make it easier for me, I won't make it easier for anyone else.
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