In old age, the closest people are not necessarily children, but these two people

time:2022-12-08 10:56:24source:novahomeonline.com author:Life of the elderly
In old age, the closest people are not necessarily children, but these two people

01My mother-in-law often said: "I can go back to my hometown with confidence when I help you bring your little ones to kindergarten. At that time, neither of your father and I will follow, and we will go back to the old man in the village. House, grow and order vegetables, raise chickens, and then eat anything. It's very relaxing. We have worked hard all our lives, and when we can't help you, we can live our own little life in peace." "Follow us. How good, no matter it's our family or the eldest brother's, everyone will take care of your food, and you won't be lonely." "Of course I know that you will take care of us, and you are also filial, but we want to be free. Wait for your little ones. After going to kindergarten, we still have good legs and feet, and we live a good life by ourselves, which is the most comfortable. At that time, I will not let your father help the old people." My parents-in-law are currently living in two places: my mother-in-law came from Henan to Xiamen to help us. Take the second child, and the father-in-law, stay at the elder brother in the home county to help his shop look after the door. The mother-in-law gave birth to two good sons, all of whom are very filial, and two good daughters-in-law. Having two sons in the countryside is actually quite stressful. Some people gossip, "Look at how poor your family is, how can you afford to support your two sons, and how can you help your two sons get a daughter-in-law". But the two sons of my in-laws are very good. The eldest hadn't read a book, but he is a good businessman. He has been doing well in the county these years, and it's better than what we did in the city. My husband is a good student of reading. Henan's college entrance examination is so stressful, but he got more than 640 points in the liberal arts test and got into Xiamen University. He was a man of the year. He took the college entrance examination in 2004. I heard from him that he was ranked very high in the province that year, and he even appeared in the local newspaper. Also, in those days, getting into a good university was really a burning incense for a family. But my in-laws are really poor. Both of them are people with little ability, and they are illiterate. They only know how to make money with coolies, and they don’t know how to do business. With two good sons and filial piety, the two of them are living a good life. The in-laws did not spend much money on the marriage of the two sons, because they had no money themselves, and the two sons earned everything together with their wives after marriage. The old people got married and had children very early, and the mother-in-law helped the old people bring up two children very early. We got married a little later, so now we have two children, and the eldest is only one year and seven months old. It stands to reason that like my mother-in-law, the two sons are very promising, and it is enough to follow the two sons, but why do you have to go home? My mother-in-law said, "That's the real home for me and your father." I agree with my mother-in-law's idea. If I get old in the future, to be honest, I don't want to follow the children. I just want to live with my husband in the old house. We both have our own little days. As for the children, we can come back and have a meal during the New Year's Eve. We don't have any special requirements for them, as long as they can live a good life safely, as long as the two of us can take care of each other, it's better to live by ourselves. Children have children's lives, and we have our lives. In old age, are the closest people really children? We often say "raising children to prevent old age", but to be honest, can you follow your children for the rest of your life? The children are old, they have their own lives, and if they are tied to you all the time, they will be bored. So, in old age, who is the closest person? 02 One is ourselves. We must be kind to ourselves, no matter when, the closest person is yourself. In your later years, if your partner is fortunate enough to accompany you all the time, that's fine, but if not, you still have to be strong alone. Children with children will not be by your side all the time. You spend a lot of time with yourself every day. I read Mr. Yang Jiang's story before, and I also learned that she lost her beloved daughter and husband in 1997 and 1998. This kind of thing is extremely tragic for any of us. The husband is gone, and so is the daughter. Now, how can I live on my own? But Mr. Yang Jiang lived alone for more than 20 years, slowly and peacefully. She didn't have a miserable life, but handled her relationship with herself very well. She was full of heart and knew how to get along with herself, how to get along with the world, and looked down on everything. Of course, like Mr. Yang Jiang, there must be nursing staff around, but it is impossible for nursing staff to accompany you all the time, and nursing staff can only take care of you when you are unable to take care of yourself and get sick, but seriously , If you really can't take care of yourself one day, you will almost have to say goodbye to this world. When you do it yourself, you are mostly alone, depending on how you make your life fun and interesting. Be sure to deal with your relationship with yourself, so that your old age will not be too miserable. People should learn from plants. A plant grows naturally by absorbing sunlight and rain. People can do the same. If you are really alone, you are not alone. You can eat, drink, and watch the scenery, just watch the scenery, cultivate your own hobbies, and you can live a very rich life. . The second is a partner. As long as nothing special happens, our partner is likely to be able to accompany us a long way. Thinking of what my mother said before: "Don't look at my four children, but can I count on you to serve me? It's still difficult. Including your father, there is a high probability that I will take care of him in the future, as long as I am healthy. Me and your father are too. We have supported each other for a lifetime, and we have had quarrels, but in the end, it is the two of us who can truly rely on each other.” My parents are also very good. They have four children and three daughters were admitted to college. I My brother didn't want to study, so he had no choice but to follow my parents. In fact, he is not following my parents, but my parents help him more. My mother helped my sister-in-law to bring up three children, and most of the time they were together; and my father helped my brother to contract land to grow cotton in Xinjiang. Although it was hard work, he could earn a lot of money in a year, which is better than going out to work. Much stronger. As long as people live, they have to rush for life. You can't really do nothing when you get old. My dad is still young, he is only 60 years old this year. In his words, as long as he can still work hard, he wants to help my brother for a few more years so that he can earn more. So you say, what blessings can parents enjoy from their children? After all, help your children more. The three of us didn't ask our parents to help us much after we got married, and we would send money every birthday and festival. We also feel sorry for my dad and told him to stop doing it. He is so old, but he said, "What am I doing when I'm idle? It's better to help your brother and be his companion more. Wait until he doesn't need my help. , I'll go home too." My parents still feel more distressed about their son. I am 32 years old now, if you ask me how do I plan for my old age? To tell the truth, I just want to live a good life with my husband, and hope that the children will not let us help, so that the two of us can live a comfortable and leisurely life in our later years, go outside, take a look, and treat our youth. The "two-person world" of the time was made up. I always feel that the time that really belongs to the two of us is too little. Since having a child, I have carried a heavy burden on my body, which is completely different from the time when we were in love. You still have to be kind to your partner, because your partner is the one who can really stay by your side. As long as your relationship is okay, your later life will not be too bad. 03 I admire my parents and my in-laws. They lived so hard when they were young, but they can live such a good life now. In the final analysis, it is because they have had good children. Their sons and daughters all have one thing in common: they are quite self-reliant and know that happiness comes from their own struggles. I sometimes think that if my children can be like my husband and I, then our old age should be happy. After writing a lot, I will say one last sentence: We must educate our children well, and train them to become independent people. At the same time, being a good parent is not about relying on him. Of course, when he needs help, he must lend a helping hand. Parents must also be independent and cannot rely on their children all the time. When a person reaches his old age, the closest one is not necessarily his children, but his partner and himself. But as long as your children are promising, you can also live a good life. The best family love does not require you to obtain from your children, but they will obey you from the bottom of their hearts. My husband and I are now filial to our parents from the bottom of our hearts. Today's topic: When a person reaches his old age, are the closest people the children? Welcome to leave a message. - END - ★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing warm emotional things in this world.
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