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Some people say that parents are also responsible for their son's failure to marry a daughter-in-law when he is a bachelor. Do you agree? There are as many as 30 million to 40 million bachelors in our country, and most of them are in rural areas. So many young men who are ready for marriage cannot find wives, which may indeed become a very difficult social problem. Of course, there are many reasons for this phenomenon, such as the imbalance of male and female ratios, sky-high betrothal gifts, changes in the concept of marriage, and so on. However, some people say that if a son can't marry a daughter-in-law if he is a bachelor, parents also have a certain responsibility. Do you agree with this statement? Parents are too shrewd and calculating, and pass on this philosophy of life to their sons. As the saying goes, "smartness is mistaken by wisdom", people should not be too shrewd and good at calculating, especially in dealing with others, it is even less so, otherwise it will be bad. For example, Xiao Li's parents are in small business, they are very smart, and they can make small calculations. When Xiao Li's girlfriend became pregnant, they should have held a wedding according to the normal procedure. Everyone is happy, but his parents are full of Taking advantage of his son's girlfriend's pregnancy to make a big fuss, he wanted to marry his daughter-in-law without spending a penny. The parents are too pampered, and the son does not even have the basic ability to take care of himself. It is understandable and human to raise a child as a baby, but it must not be too much, otherwise it will be a bad thing done with good intentions. If you dote on your child too much, let him not work hard since he was a child, do not distinguish between grains, and have no independent living ability. When he grows up and enters the society, he can't do anything. If he can't do well, such a man is of course It is difficult to find a wife. For example, the doctoral student who was spoiled since childhood and finally embarked on the road of crime is the best proof. The parents were too strong, and the son developed a submissive character from an early age. It is a good thing for parents to be strong, but if you use excessive power to educate your children, it is really wrong. Growing up in this kind of family environment, children will become very vulnerable and incompetent. When they grow up, they will only know that they can only obey their promises and have no responsibility. Just imagine, what kind of girl can look up to such a boy? The parents have bad habits or quality of life and fail to fulfill their responsibility to educate their sons. Some parents themselves do not set a good example for their sons, but have certain bad habits and qualities, such as alcoholism, gambling, domestic violence, wars, quarrels, beating and scolding their children, etc. Neglecting to manage and educate children on weekdays, even ignoring them, so that the son has been bad at school since childhood. When it comes to seeking a daughter-in-law, because the reputation of the whole family is very bad, it is difficult to find a partner. Parents impose their will on their sons, or break up lovers. Some parents have old-fashioned ideas, and they also advocate that marriage matters are "parents' orders." Sometimes even the son's childhood sweetheart, the first love of the two young and innocent, can be separated by them, which greatly hurts the son's heart, so it is delayed again and again, thus delaying the son into a bachelor and leftover man. The parents are really incompetent, and the family conditions are too poor to marry a daughter-in-law. Many parents are very responsible people, for example, they only know how to farm or work, and they can’t make a lot of money at all, so their family conditions are relatively poor. In today's social reality, it is of course very difficult to marry a daughter-in-law. Of course, this cannot be said to be the so-called responsibility of being a parent, it can only be an objectively formed situation, and young men in such a family can only rely on their own efforts. Looking at the essence through the phenomenon, although it is not entirely the responsibility of the parents to say that a son cannot marry a daughter-in-law when he is a bachelor, but from the perspective of many families, some parents still have a certain responsibility. Everyone can draw some reflections from this incident, at least pay attention to family education, and be able to lead by example, and be able to give their children better training and education. What do you think? Personal opinion, comments are welcome, stay tuned. |