There are six major illusions in life, please see it as soon as possible

Text/Xia Mo

01, the frontispiece

"One Hundred Years of Solitude" wrote: "We tend to walk in the ancient times of life. On the journey, we run through ups and downs, nirvana in setbacks, sorrow is entangled in the body, and pain is scattered all over the place. We are tired, but we can’t stop; we suffer, but we can’t avoid it.” Everyone is here with hope and expectation. world walk. Desire to associate with everyone on the road of life with the greatest kindness. However, not every story will have a good outcome. In many cases, the reality is often crueler than the ideal state. On the way of growth, there are regrets, pains, and disabilities. This is the most real life. Each age stage is slowly growing. On the way of growth, you will gradually see the world, human nature, and the illusion of existence in this world. There are six major delusions in human life, please see them clearly as soon as possible.

01. Thinking that friends can help you in the snow

When you are accompanied by friends, you will feel that life is more warm and interesting. I used to think that the true heart can be replaced by the true heart. When you are in a downturn, you are willing to give help in the snow. In fact, there are very few people who can really help you. Everyone habitually seeks advantages and avoids disadvantages, and likes to associate with people who can bring more benefits to themselves. When you're in a slump, you need someone to pull you out of the mud faster. However, you will find that when you fail to bring help or provide value to others, you may be ruthlessly turned away. Some friends are really incapable of helping you, and some friends are capable but do not want to help. This is human nature. Gradually, you will understand that many friends will not take risks to save you, and will not help you in the snow. The only person who can really take you out of the sea of misery is yourself. On the road of life, we can only learn to rely on ourselves and strengthen ourselves.

02. Thinking that lovers can share wealth and poverty

When falling in love, a man and a woman love each other passionately. They once thought that love can defeat everything and go to the rest of their lives. . However, in the life of firewood, rice, oil and salt, I gradually found that love is not as strong as imagined, and marriage is not as beautiful as imagined. Even on the road of life, a little setback can separate the heart between husband and wife. There is a proverb that says: "Husbands and wives are birds of the same forest, but disaster strikes." Some couples can share poverty, but cannot share wealth; some couples can share wealth, but cannot share poverty. Human nature makes it impossible to say who is right and who is wrong. On the road of life, you can only choose to accept the fact that some people can accompany you for a while, but they cannot accompany you through this life.

03. I think I can live a healthy life to old age

, but I always think that disease is far away from me. Therefore, often stay up late, consume your body, and indulge yourself without any scruples. I thought I was young, so I was always unscrupulous. However, I didn't expect that one day, the disease will also come to me. It turns out that the pain is so close to me. Zweig said: "When a person is young, he always thinks that disease and death will only patronize others." Health needs to be maintained, and money can be earned again when money is gone; If health is lost, the future will be gloomy and there will be no more light. It turns out that our bodies are not as healthy and strong as we imagined. No matter what age you are, please take good care of your body and be kind to yourself.

04. If you think you are kind, you can get good luck.

Be kind, but you can't be a "good old man". When dealing with people, you can't be too cowardly, have no bottom line, and blindly compromise, taking grievances as a habit. Because, in this world, not all kindness can be exchanged for sincerity, and not all kindness will be treated kindly. To be a human being, you must have a city government and know how to recognize people's hearts. Kindness does not necessarily bring good luck. In the face of people with unreliable character, learn to refuse and insist on yourself. If you are bullied because of your kindness, please keep your strong side, plan your life well, and don't lose yourself easily in any state. On the road of life, be kind, but you must be sharp and discerning, and don't condone the evil of others.

05. As long as you work hard, you can get ahead

On the road of life, not all hard work can be exchanged for a rich fruit. On the way of growing up, I gradually realized that hard work may only prevent myself from starving, but it may not be possible to realize my dreams. Zhu Bajie in "Journey to the West" thought that he could become a Buddha by taking scriptures from the West. However, the Buddha gave him the title of "the messenger of the altar", which obviously did not meet Zhu Bajie's expectations. He traveled all the way and worked hard, thinking he could become a Buddha, but he didn't get the title he wanted. Zhu Bajie was a little disappointed, but he could only be relieved. On the road of life, you must learn to look away from people and things that you can't get. Because not all hard work pays off. If you ask too much, you will not be happy. It's not the results that really grows, it's the process. Don't expect too much from yourself. It's worth the effort. It is normal that what you give and what you get are not proportional. If you choose to accept, you can often find an exit in life.

06. Believe that family love is selfless

The interaction between people hides the exchange of interests, even brothers and sisters. Between family, blood is connected, in fact, there is also a hidden selfishness. Everyone will be used to planning for themselves first, and will not be selfless and contribute to others completely and selflessly. On the way of growing up, don't overestimate family affection, and don't have too high expectations for relatives. If a man is willing to help you when your relatives are in difficulty, please learn to be grateful. If relatives don't want to help you, please relax. When it comes to relatives, don't overestimate each other's relationship and don't take feelings too seriously. Because there is no one in this world who can help you for a lifetime. In everything, you still have to rely on yourself. Helping you is a human favor, and not helping is also a duty.

07. Summary

On the road of life, remember to stay awake and live. When dealing with people, you don't have to expect too much from others, and don't overestimate any emotions. Mr. Yang Jiang said: "Only when you are humble can you have the best chance to see the truth of the world." If you fall into a trough, you don't have to wait for someone to save you, but you must learn to be strong and know how to save yourself. No matter what kind of situation you are in, you don't have to be sad in spring and autumn, and try to survive on your own. Have more ideas and expectations for your future, and make your plan a little more detailed. On the road of life, all encounters will make you stronger. Through the most difficult years, you will definitely meet the most beautiful rainbow. -END- Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, an emotional writer with over 1 billion people on the Internet, a manager of a happy woman, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.

There are six major illusions in life, please see it as soon as possible