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Power and status are one of the sources of disharmony between husband and wife and emotional crisis Power and status are deeply rooted in people's hearts. It can be said that since ancient times, people have been pursuing power and status, and few people can see through power and status. Why are people so obsessed with power and status? The reason is that people with low social status get less social resources, and most of them are not respected and recognized by others. People with high social status not only have the power to control the life, death and fate of others, but also can obtain more social resources. Respect and recognition from many people. The pursuit of power and status is beneficial to the development of society. However, from an emotional point of view, excessive pursuit of power and status is one of the sources of disharmony between husband and wife and the emergence of emotional crisis. Why do you say that? The cases of Isaiah and Ingrid provide the answer. Isaiah is a man with a strong desire to control. He does not allow his wife to go against his will. If he violates his wishes, he will get angry and even punch and kick his wife. Isaiah's wife felt helpless in her life with Isaiah and especially wanted revenge, so she chose to betray and divorced Isaiah in resentment after the betrayal. Ingrid is a very self-conscious married woman who thinks her ideas are right and others are wrong. Therefore, once Ingrid's husband is inconsistent with Ingrid's ideas, or questions Ingrid's advice, Ingrid will take various methods to force her husband to recognize herself. Ingrid will never allow her husband to do anything unfavorable to her. She regards herself as the mistress of the family and her husband as a tool to meet her needs, and she doesn't care about her husband's feelings at all. In this bad environment, Ingrid's husband not only escaped the marriage because of work, but also betrayed the marriage because of too strong emotional needs. Friends, what have you learned from the case of Isaiah and Ingrid? Although the cases of Isaiah and Ingrid are more extreme, in reality, this situation is not uncommon. Isaiah and Ingrid have an extremely strong desire for power and status, and this strong desire stems from people's desire for control and self-psychology. A strong desire for control will make people lose their minds and cannot treat their lovers with an equal attitude, while people's ego psychology will make people only care about their own feelings, not caring about their lover, and turning a blind eye to their lover's efforts. Isaiah's betrayal and divorce were completely brought about by Isaiah. If he did not abuse his wife and control his wife, his wife would not retaliate against him by betrayal and divorce. Ingrid's betrayal was also self-inflicted. If it weren't for her wicked ways and her own opinions, she would not have hurt her husband, and her husband would not have betrayed her because of this. Maybe some friends will say: "Teacher, marriage involves loyalty and responsibility. Those who betray marriage, no matter what the betrayal is, are not worthy of sympathy and forgiveness." One question: what would you do if your lover treated you in a violent, controlling, opinionated way? Do you feel resentment and fight your lover to the end? Are you dealing with marital problems through divorce or cold violence when you are in pain? If you are unhappy in your married life and your emotional needs are extremely strong, are you betraying your marriage when you meet someone who makes your heart move? Some people's betrayal is not for no reason, not because of abnormally strong physical needs, but because the lover's desire for power and status makes people feel more painful and uncomfortable. Maybe a friend will say, "If you don't love, you can get a divorce. Betrayal hurts others." Marriage is like a cage, it binds people's thoughts in a small cage. In this situation, one will not give up marriage easily, and one cannot see through the essence of marriage and happiness. And in this state of shackled thoughts, once you meet someone who makes your heart move, you will have a fluke mentality and choose to betray. Talking about the harm of power and status to marriage is to hope that married men and women can face up to the relationship between husband and wife, do not regard their lover as a servant or nanny, and do not think that their lover is inferior to themselves. Treating your lover with an equal attitude and treating your lover as your partner is the key to running a good marriage and avoiding emotional crisis in the marriage. How to treat your lover with an equal attitude? Discuss everything with your lover. When your lover puts forward opinions that are contrary to your own, do not refute, but express your approval, and then put forward your own suggestions and ideas, and ask your partner whether they approve it. Getting along on weekdays, respecting the decision of the lover, and understanding the lover's is not easy. If you have opposing opinions and concepts, put them forward in recognition and praise, and don't adopt an attitude of disapproval and insist on competing with your lover to argue with your lover about the right or the wrong. Mutual respect, understanding and recognition are the keys to win-win cooperation. Only married boyfriends and girlfriends who achieve these three points can make their lovers love themselves more and manage their marriage well. |