Before their children get married, parents with "scheming" will inquire about these two things, there is nothing to be embarrassed about

time:2022-12-08 08:57:58source:novahomeonline.com author:Family diet
Before their children get married, parents with "scheming" will inquire about these two things, there is nothing to be embarrassed about

Text / Good Pregnant Sister Recently, Su Min, who was in her 50s and chose to "escape" by car for 2 years, was on the hot search again. This time, she finally decided to divorce. In this regard, the vast majority of netizens expressed envy and strong support. But some people bluntly said, "If Aunt Su was a man and left her family and ran away from home to seek freedom, she would have been killed by Internet violence." I took a look and found that more than 4,000 people liked this statement . Frankly speaking, maybe things are told by another person, which is another version. But whether married life is happy or not, the details cannot deceive people. For those who love each other, seeing each other in one day is like three autumns apart. Even with gray hair, I am still by your side. However, Su Min had never felt such warmth. Two years ago, after she ran away from home, her wife ignored her and didn't care at all whether she encountered any difficulties and how she was living while she was drifting away. The only call was to ask for money: "You're on the highway, right? Swipe my card, 81 yuan, pay me back quickly." Two years later, the two met, and there was no joy after a long absence. As soon as his wife entered the door, he began to mock and sarcastic as always, "You still know how to come back? Can't you go on?" This familiar coolness made Su Min realize that if she wasted in this marriage, she would spend the rest of her life. will continue to suffer. Time urges people to grow old, but it is difficult to change a person. And knowing that choosing the wrong mate can cost you dearly. Therefore, before their children get married, some parents will inquire about these two things about the other's family. As the saying goes, "Marrying a daughter depends on the family style, and marrying a person depends on the in-laws." Never underestimate the influence of the original family on the marriage of children. If the father never respects the mother, he beats his partner whenever he doesn't like it, and even has all the five poisons. Then, boys who grow up in such families are very likely to have domestic violence tendencies, they will not respect their wives, and they will not be self-motivated. Because children are copies of their parents, don't think that they have suffered from it since childhood and will be a gentle and kind husband in the future. Fate seems to be reincarnation, but they can easily become the person they once hated the most. In the same way, if the woman's parents have problems in life and life style, they should be vigilant. After all, in the past few years, I have often seen news that the man was miserable. For example, not long after the engagement, the woman finds various reasons to break off the engagement, and is unwilling to return the high betrothal gift. To tell the truth, this kind of behavior, sensible parents can't do it at all. Only those unreasonable, greedy and rogue parents, even if they were scolded at the spine, they still possessed this windfall with peace of mind. Being married to such a family is like sticking a dog skin plaster. Not only will they interfere in their daughter's small family, but they will also instigate her daughter to seek benefits for her family from time to time. If they still prefer sons to daughters, that's even worse. Their daughters have been brainwashed from a young age to help their elder or younger brother. Even after getting married, half of the salary is handed over to her parents, and she even has to help her elder brother or younger brother buy a house and pay off debts. It is estimated that when they see this, some people will feel that "the people around the other party's house are not familiar with me, how to ask, now it is better to have less than one thing, who will say". This is true, but as the saying goes, the reputation is notorious, like the kind in the village or community, the reputation is particularly bad. Even if others don't say it, the expression and attitude will reveal clues. Especially like those who are obviously married, but conceal their marriage history. As soon as you go to the village and ask about it, you will know the past. Whether the other's parents value their own children often hear a saying that "marriage is a matter of two people, and there is no need to consider the attitude of the other's parents". But if the other's family doesn't take your children seriously before marriage, then they will be looked down upon even more after marriage. Human stereotypes are especially scary. If you don't like your children from the beginning, then no matter how much they pay after marriage, they will still not warm each other's hearts. To make matters worse, if you encounter a family that loves to gossip and find fault, no matter how good a marriage is, it will be disturbed and shattered sooner or later. Finally, I want to say that although free love and freedom of marriage are advocated nowadays, some young people are even deeply in love and do not want to listen to their parents' advice. But as the so-called parent's beloved son, it is far-reaching. In any case, don't let your children get married in a hurry. Use your own life experience to take care of them. Especially for girls who plan to marry far away, parents should be more cautious. If you can, you might as well go to the man's house to have a look. This is the greatest responsibility for the daughter's marriage. 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