"21-year-old takeaway single mother incident": I feel sorry for her and feel sorry for her

time:2023-01-29 11:16:34source:novahomeonline.com author:Conjugal life
"21-year-old takeaway single mother incident": I feel sorry for her and feel sorry for her

01Recently, a video of an interview with a 21-year-old single mother who delivered food in Anqing, Anhui became popular. In the video, she introduced herself as 21 years old, surnamed Chen, her husband died when the child was 5 or 6 months old, and her mother-in-law kicked her and the child out after receiving the compensation. She chose to deliver food because of the high wages. , and "can take children". I watched her interview video. She is very young. Although she is already a mother, she still has the childishness of a girl because of her young age. She tells her story generously, and you can't hear her complaining or complaining at all from her words. Because her parents didn't want her to take care of her children, she had to leave her hometown in Jiangxi to work in Anqing alone. "My mother is for my own good. She loves her own daughter, but I also love my daughter." "Does your mother-in-law even want her own granddaughter?" The interviewer asked her, her eyes were a little wet, and she said, "It can only be sons and daughters to continue in Jiangxi." Just because she gave birth to a daughter, anyway, her husband also If she died, her mother-in-law had reason to drive her out. I'm really a little worried and angry. They're all women. How can I be so sympathetic to my daughter-in-law? Her husband was already very pitiful when she died, but her mother-in-law treated her like this. Why can't she get compensation? Because she and her husband got married in 2018, they cannot get a marriage certificate if they are not of legal marriage age. Without a marriage certificate, legally speaking, there is no marriage relationship. Then her husband died unexpectedly, and she didn't give birth to a son, so her mother-in-law took her and the child out of the way. Although the mother-in-law did not break the law, what this mother-in-law did was too impersonal. Even if your daughter-in-law is an outsider, your granddaughter is also your son's child. How can you be so ruthless? The interviewer said with emotion, "It's not easy for you." She said, what's not easy about it, when will you not endure hardship now? She is very strong. She is tough and tough as a mother at a young age, but I always feel that she has taken on too much at a young age. She is only 21 years old, shouldn't a 21-year-old girl enjoy free youth? But what about her? She took on the shackles of marriage and children too early, and she lost her life too early. I'm not blaming this girl, I also came from the countryside, I know that as long as the girl doesn't study in the countryside, the most important thing for her is to get married. But have you looked at her age? She was only 17 when she got married, and she was still a minor. Part of her tragedy was caused by her parents, who should not have let her get married at a young age. For a girl like her, if she didn't get married so early, go to work in a factory in a big city, or learn a skill, she could make more money. With money and seeing the world, you will have better ideas about your future. But when you get into marriage too early, you have to take on the responsibility of marriage and children, and you have no ego. "The incident of the 21-year-old single mother delivering food", I feel sorry for her, and I feel sorry for her even more. If she hadn't married so early and had children so early, wouldn't her life be so hard? 02 Is it good for a girl to have a baby at a young age? We often hear things like this, but I want to remind girls as a past person: even if married life is beautiful, it is not paradise, it contains a lot of responsibilities, as long as you get married and have children, you have to be forced to grow. You will feel very tired, and you will be very envious of those girls who are still playing at a young age, what a good youth they have. Our country's court marriage age is: men must not be earlier than 22 years old, and women should not be earlier than 20 years old. This is very scientific, you might as well think back to what it was like to be 20 years old? If you are 20 years old, if you are admitted to college, you should be in your sophomore year. You have a very good college life, you are talking about a very good love, your love concept may have just been established, and everything surrounding you is Very beautiful, because you are young, and youth is capital. If you didn't go to university, you don't have any financial strength, and you are not very mature. What would you use to get married at this time? If you have another child, you are still a child yourself, so how can you raise a child? And you don't have to give birth to the child, the child will completely change your life. As long as you have a child, you are bound to be bound, because you have the responsibility, you have to be responsible for the child, who asked you to give birth to the child Woolen cloth? I talk about my own experience, hoping to inspire some girls: I was admitted to a 211 college when I was 18 years old. When I went to college, I didn’t fall in love and spent most of my time studying hard and working part-time to earn tuition and living expenses. My university life has been very busy, busy with work, busy with study, busy with socializing, university life is a new experience for me. At the age of 21, when I was preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination, I met my boyfriend, and we went from a long-distance relationship to a same-city relationship. At the age of 22, I graduated from college and went to his city to find a job. I started to go to the society, thinking that I would definitely make a difference. I should be able to earn a lot of money and give myself a good life. I am full of vision for the future. 22-26 years old, I am in love and work hard. I changed three jobs and improved myself step by step. The salary increased from 2800 to 7000. I continued to fall in love with him. After work, we were financially able to go out to play. We went to Hong Kong, Thailand, Phuket, and Taiwan together. , and so on, there are many cities in the country. I enjoyed the beauty of being in love, and through getting along with him, I learned that he is the right person for me. Before getting a marriage license at the age of 26, I resigned naked and walked for a month and a half. I went to Beijing, Xi'an, Kunming, Dali, Shangri-La, and Lhasa with my bag alone. We encountered problems in our relationship, but because we are very mature with each other, we can easily overcome that hurdle. After I watched Daqian World and truly enjoyed my own freedom, I got married with him. He's five years older than me, and we'll be able to fully support ourselves when we get married. We are financially independent, and we even saved our own money to buy a house. When I was in a relationship, I told him "I absolutely cannot get pregnant", and he didn't want to have a baby so early, he wanted to play more while he was young. When I was 27 years old, I got pregnant and gave birth to my first child; when I was 30 years old, I gave birth to my second child. The two of us are fully financially able to support two children, and after the efforts of marriage, we also changed to a bigger house. But to tell the truth: it is not so easy for a woman to conceive and give birth, and it is too difficult to raise a child. There will also be quarrels in our marriages, but because we are more mature, we can solve any problems easily. Children will make me feel tired, we will miss the carefree life before children, how beautiful and free, you can do what you want, you only need to think about yourself, you have no responsibility to bear. But once you get married and have kids, it's different. Young girls always like to think of marriage very well, especially want to have a family, but what I want to tell you is: don’t worry, take advantage of your youth to fall in love and find someone who really suits you, earn more money Save more money to enrich and improve yourself. Don't think it's okay to get married a few years earlier. Getting married a few years earlier is really different from getting married a few years later, especially for girls. 03The 21-year-old single mother, she is very inspirational and a very good girl, she should have a better life. It's just that now she has no choice. As a mother, she is just now, and her husband is gone, so she has to bear the hardships of life alone. Girls, consider getting married and having children after the age of 25. At that time, you will be relatively mature. You get married at 26 and have a second child before you are 30. The marriage life is very long, and the life of raising children is also very long, but the time that truly belongs to you is only in those few years. If you get married and have children too early: first, you are young and immature; second, you have no financial strength, and you can’t do anything. You have no risk tolerance for your choices. Our life, the years of our youth, are very precious, and once we lose them, we will never have them again. A 21-year-old single mother, she has a strong inner strength and should have a good life; but I hope you can take a lesson and don't get married and have children at a young age, you should have a richer and better life, waiting for you If you really get married and have children, and if you know what marriage is like, you will understand why I say, "You are the most extravagant when you are young, and you will never get it back." Today's topic: What do you think of some girls getting married and having children at a young age? Welcome to leave a message. - END - ★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing warm emotional things in this world.
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