When you are old, you cut off relations with the following relatives, not because of affection, but because of foresight

time:2023-01-29 07:11:02source:novahomeonline.com author:Big family
When you are old, you cut off relations with the following relatives, not because of affection, but because of foresight

Text/Xia Mo

01. Frontispiece

Bing Xin once said: "Love is a kind of purity, a friend is a kind of breadth, Family affection is a kind of thickness." Family affection is sometimes like a beam of sunshine, which can not only warm people's hearts, but also illuminate the road ahead. When we were young, when we were young, we were taught the concept of blood ties, and that relatives should help each other. However, in the process of growing up, you will find some family affection, warm heart; some family affection, hurt. Family affection, if the management is not good, it may also become the cold wind of the severe winter, blowing disappointment and sadness into people's hearts. Family affection seeps into impurities, and it becomes no longer pure. When family affection deteriorates, relatives are sometimes inferior to outsiders, and even though they have the same blood, they are ruthless when calculating. In the experience of life, I gradually understand that not all family love is worth paying with all my heart. When a person gets old and breaks off relations with three kinds of relatives, it is not affection, but foresight.

02. It is human instinct to be greedy and take advantage of relatives everywhere

. But everything is too much. If relatives can help each other and support each other to move forward, then everyone's family will be harmonious and beautiful, and even the whole big family will develop more vigorously. But human nature is unpredictable. Even relatives, when two families get along, will have different opinions and different ideas. Even conflicts of interest may arise. If relatives love to take advantage of small things, and they have to calculate everywhere, then it will only increase the estrangement between each other. Relatives who are greedy for petty cheapness, pay more attention to profit than righteousness. When they get along, he only cares about his own interests. Also, they often encroach on the interests of others. When a person is old, stay away from relatives who are greedy and take advantage of others everywhere. Once tolerated, it will only make him more aggressive. There is no free lunch in the world. Condoning relatives who love to take advantage of them will only allow themselves to live in tangled matters and affect the quality of life in their later years. Even relatives should maintain the good habit of loving each other, respecting each other, respecting each other, and not arbitrarily taking advantage of each other. Relationships between relatives will gradually become deeper and deeper.

03. Stay away from relatives who like to borrow money and cannot repay it

On the road of life, money can guarantee a person's quality of life. Having money makes life easier. However, in this world, not everyone can make money. Although relatives come from a large family, there is a big gap in economic level. Also, everyone's ability to make money is different. Some relatives have spent half their lives borrowing money to live; some relatives, through their own efforts, are able to slowly manage their life to the fullest. The British thinker Bacon once said: "Once the family life is based on debt, it is no longer free and beautiful". A man always has to borrow money to get by, often from his own problems. Some relatives have always been poor because they didn't work hard, often fishing for three days and two days in the net; or, he was full of bad habits, like gambling, and like spending money... His own character and habits are not good. If a good relative is used to borrowing money to live, it means that he is very dependent and not independent. When people are old, they stay away from relatives who like to borrow money and cannot pay it back. Because, due to family affection, I was afraid of hurting me when I went to collect debts, and I felt uncomfortable at the expense of being dumb. Don't lend money to someone who can't pay it back. Because, lending money to him is a bottomless pit.

04. Relatives who like to gossip and can't control their mouths

On the way of life, there are some relatives who can't see their brothers and sisters and live better than themselves. As long as any relatives in the family live better than him, he will gossip and slander others. I can't keep my mouth shut, always hurting my relatives in front of outsiders. Yu Dan said: "People allow a stranger to make a fortune, but cannot tolerate the promotion of a person around him, because there is a contrast and a contrast of interests between people at the same level, and there is no such problem with strangers." He likes to gossip The relatives who are uncontrollable are nothing more than love comparisons. Love is richer than whoever is richer and who has a better life. When her family's life is not as good as others, it is easy to become jealous. Jealousy is like a fire, it will burn down the family. When you are old, stay away from relatives who like to gossip, and do not interact with them frequently. Because gossip relatives can disrupt your life. On the surface, everyone is a friendly family, but behind the scenes, they don't want you to have a good life, they just like to see that you are not feeling well. If you interact with relatives who are not serious, you will be harmed sooner or later, so it is better to stay away as soon as possible.

05. Summary

On the road of life, no matter how good the family is, it also needs to be operated and maintained. If you don't take care of it, your family will be broken. Liang Xiaosheng said: "For most people, life is just a bunch of responsibilities. To understand this truth, love is fate, friendship is fate, family affection is especially fate, no matter what, it should be rubbed and turned into pearls." This life can become a family People are the fate that came from the previous life. When encountering relatives who love petty cheap, do not repay borrowed money, and like to gossip, choose to distance themselves. Cherish those and treat your relatives sincerely. If there is a relationship, it will only bring you a negative impact. Breaking up as soon as possible is the wisest choice. As people age, time and energy are precious. Pay for people who are worthy and stay away from relatives who add internal friction to you. In this way, your life in old age will be guaranteed. -END- Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, an emotional writer with over 1 billion people on the Internet, a manager of a happy woman, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
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