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After smashing the house once, the husband who forced me to quit my job every day and go back to my hometown to serve my mother-in-law shut up Psychologist Karen Horney writes in "The Psychology of Marriage": "Bad marriages turn people into madmen, good marriages turn people into fools, and the best marriages turn people into children." Before getting married, women are full of expectations for marriage and full of longing for happiness. If they didn't believe that men can bring them happiness and let them get better, they would not leave their loving parents, marry him, and work hard to run a brand new family. Coming to a new environment and running a new family requires courage, having children, and even more courage, they are willing to give, willing to give for a happy life. If possible, women also want to be good wives, good mothers, and work hand in hand with men to keep their small homes in good order. However, when they run into a man who has no responsibility, just wants to get the benefits from the marriage and does not want to pay, and does nothing to harm the interests of his wife, women will also be tortured by a qualityless marriage. Yan Rujing once said in "Wonderful Flowers": "Forbearance in marriage is limited in time. Forbearance for a while is called calm and peaceful, but for the rest of your life, it all depends on fate." In marriage, the confidence of a man to gain an inch is often something you are used to. of. If you endure and endure, and retreat again and again, what you get in return may not be the vastness of the sea, not his gratitude, but his progress. On the contrary, if you refuse in time, dare to get angry, dare to defend your own interests, let him know that it is not good for you to get mad at you, and maybe he will cast his arms against you and will not underestimate you. "After smashing the house once, the husband who forced me to quit my job and go back to my hometown to serve my mother-in-law every day shut up. Now, I have become a shrew, whoever dares to beep in my ear, I will dare to scold anyone." These days , Sister Fang's outstanding record not only made her husband dare not to persecute her, but also scolded her husband's relatives who did not dare to harass her while standing and talking without backache. 01. The story goes like this. Originally, Sister Fang's in-laws have been living in their hometown. The old couple depend on each other. The three children will go back to visit when they have time and give them some money. However, since the father-in-law passed away at the beginning of this year, the mental state of the mother-in-law has not been as good as before. unfortunate consequences. Not long ago, the eldest aunt called and said that she went back to visit her mother during the Mid-Autumn Festival. Relatives accused them of being unfilial as children and leaving the elderly with poor self-care ability in the countryside alone. The eldest aunt stayed in her hometown to take care of her mother for a week, and felt that the old man's physical condition was not suitable for living alone. The eldest aunt called and wanted to discuss with her two younger brothers about supporting her mother in retirement. Originally, Sister Fang didn't think there was any problem. After all, supporting your parents was your duty as a child. The mother-in-law has three children, she can take turns to give her old age, or find a nursing home with good conditions. Unexpectedly, the husband told Sister Fang, to be precise, to directly announce the decision of the three brothers and sisters: "You go to the factory to go through the resignation procedures immediately, and go back to serve my mother immediately." That is to say, as a child, the eldest sister , Husband's eldest brother and husband did not want to serve their mother, but left all the drudgery of serving their mother-in-law to Sister Fang, which made Sister Fang feel unacceptable. 02. The reason why the husband directly asked Sister Fang to resign and go back as soon as possible without discussion is because during the 28 years of marriage, Sister Fang has hardly rejected him. For example, when eldest sister Fang gave birth to her eldest daughter, her in-laws were dissatisfied with it and asked her to continue giving birth. Sister Fang, taking into account her physical condition and the family's economic conditions, refused to have a second child, but her husband ignored it and listened to her. If the parents wanted to have a son, Sister Fang had to risk giving birth to a son and almost hurt herself. After the son was born, the parents-in-law who had promised to take the baby learned that the daughter was going to have a second child, but no one was there to serve her. When the son was five years old, Sister Fang’s husband decided to go out to work, and Sister Fang wanted to go with her. However, her parents-in-law refused to come back to take care of her grandchildren. In desperation, Sister Fang had to live in a different place with her husband for 13 years, and stayed in her hometown to take care of her. A pair of children did not go to the place where her husband worked until their son was admitted to university. In order to save money for her son to marry a wife, Sister Fang also found a job. Although it was very hard, Sister Fang was very satisfied with this kind of life with piece-rate wages and money in her hands. She plans to work for a few more years and save more money. , wait until the son has a child, and then take the grandson. "My mother-in-law brought a baby to my aunt and her brother, but she didn't help me. I didn't stop my husband from doing his filial piety. I was already very kind. Why should I sacrifice my old age and go to work hard? Serving her hard, but others don't have to pay?" 03. At first, Sister Fang just protested, hoping that her husband would understand her grievance, but when her husband saw that Sister Fang dared to refuse, he became angry and slapped Sister Fang fiercely. This slap not only dispelled Big Sister Fang's hopes for him, but also caused all the grievances Big Sister Fang suffered over the years to come up, and it broke out completely. As a result, Sister Fang became hysterical, yelling at her husband while picking up something and smashing it at her husband. The husband was very panicked, shouting a shrew, and rushed out the door. Fortunately, after the son and daughter found out, they called back one after another, scolded Sister Fang's husband, and told him clearly that as long as he dared to ask Sister Fang to go back to her hometown alone to serve her mother-in-law, they would take Sister Fang away. , I will never have this father again, let him sleep on the street when he is old. "My daughter also told me not to be a good wife and good mother anymore. Good wives and good mothers also have to be divided. My husband has made it clear that it is not worth it. I still do my best to make myself happy." At present, the daughter gives Sister Fang After buying the tickets for the past National Day, Sister Fang plans to go to her daughter's place to relax and stop paying attention to her husband. As for the mother-in-law, whoever likes to serve who will serve, Sister Fang will never let them bully. 04. There is a saying on the Internet: "All the feelings in the world are mutual, and it is the best way to maintain a relationship if you give and get something." Is it worth it? Is it because you are overpaying, making the other party accustomed to taking and becoming more and more selfish. If he doesn't repent, doesn't think about your little family at all, and just wants to be happy, then being a good wife and mother will only make him more unscrupulous and think you are easy to bully. People live this life, not to please others, but to be worthy of themselves. Therefore, don't give others the opportunity to push their noses in the face, let alone make them feel that you are easy to bully. END. Topic of the day: Do you have any good advice for Sister Fang? Feel free to share your views in the comments section. |