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Whether the husband and wife get along harmoniously, start with a good talk There are thousands of unfortunate marriages in the world, and there are only a few kinds of happy marriages. A happy marriage starts with a good talk. Talking well is an art and the lubricant of a happy marriage. Psychologist John Gottman has tracked marital relationships for more than 40 years. The conclusion is: "Just by observing what couples say, you can predict whether they will divorce in just 5 minutes, with an accuracy rate of 91%." It can be seen that, whether it is a couple or a couple, the way of chatting decides The more harmonious the way of chatting, the more stable and happier the marriage will be. They all say: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June." This sentence is very suitable for application between partners. Say less hurtful words, and say more words of encouragement and praise, in order to make each other's feelings more stable and harmonious. A truly good relationship is nothing more than this: When encountering things, there is negotiation and consideration, and in getting along, learn to praise each other more, in order to make the relationship happier. First, marriage will be happier if everything is discussed Son, as her son grew up, Pingping felt that her son was very talented in drawing, and she wanted to cultivate her son's drawing skills from an early age. So Pingping asked for a relationship and found a very famous painting teacher in the local area. She thought about taking her son to sign up the next day, but the company arranged for her to go on a business trip the next day, so she couldn't bring her son to sign up. She entrusted this matter to her husband, and after she represented it with the old bus, she went on a business trip with peace of mind. During the three or four days of the business trip, her mind was all on work, and she didn't ask her husband too much if the matter was done. When he came back from a business trip, he asked his husband if he had brought his son to sign up. As a result, his husband said, "No, I can't sign up." So Pingping became popular and immediately said, "Why are you so unreliable? Ask you to do a little thing, you can't do it well, what do I expect from you in the future?" Pingping became more and more angry, and after she calmed down, her husband explained why she didn't bring her son to sign up. It turned out that the famous painting teacher, because of an accident at home, temporarily asked for leave to go back, so he did not register. After listening to her husband's explanation, Pingping immediately regretted it, and immediately apologized to her husband. His husband soon forgave her, and the relationship between the two slowly eased. Between lovers, the best way to get along is to communicate and discuss everything, with more respect and more understanding, and the relationship will become better and better. Second, learn to praise each other, the relationship between husband and wife will be sublimated. A good husband and a good partner are praised. The more you praise each other, the higher the happiness index. "The Five Languages of Love" says: "The first way to express love is affirmative words, that is, to praise your partner more." Without praise, marriage is like a pool of stagnant water. Over time, it will only become weaker and weaker. , the last two parted ways. Only by constantly complimenting your partner, your happiness will be more and more happy. I heard from a colleague before that she has been married to her husband for five years, and the relationship is still very good. Her husband often gives her some small gifts, and she will not forget it on her wedding anniversary every year. She will always praise her. As long as she wears a dress, her husband will always say, My wife is awesome, my wife is the most beautiful, she looks like a girl in her twenties. Hearing her husband compliment her so much, she was full of joy, and the praise brought a happy smile on her face. It turns out that women's beauty is all praised. In emotional life, the amount of compliments you can give each other, the amount of sweetness you can reap. Psychologist James once said: "The deepest instinct in human nature is the desire to be appreciated." True love is tolerance, appreciation, and understanding. Emotional experts have given advice: compliment your lover seven times a day, and each additional point of compliment reduces problems between couples by 10. Good feelings laugh sweet flowers in praise. When you learn to praise, a happy life will continue to approach you. The rest of my life is long, I hope you and I can both be people who can talk, learn to praise people, and then have a happy marriage. |