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No matter how much you love someone, don't ask for anything It must be equal in terms of emotions. If you are blindly paying, others will take you for granted, you should be good to me, and you should be like. In terms of relationships, you must have your own ideas, your own opinions, and your own career, so that the man who loves you will always look up to you. I saw this sentence on Zhihu: "The more you catch up, the less people will take you seriously." This sentence makes us deeply understand that the more we care about things, the less others will take you seriously. thing. The most important reason for two people to be together is to understand each other, respect each other, and tolerate each other. There is something that the two of them can discuss together. A wise and wise woman, don't reach out to a man for something. In terms of relationships, the most terrifying thing is to keep asking a man for things. After a long time, he won't take you seriously at all. He thinks that you eat mine, drink mine, and use mine. Why do you ask for so much? , once you reach out and ask others for it, your value is devalued. I have heard such a story. The woman, Xiaoping, is a salesman of an insurance company, and the man is an executive of a financial company. They met through someone else's introduction, and then they fell in love. Not long after they were together, the man proposed to Xiaoping and promised her that she would protect her and take care of her for a lifetime. Xiaoping, who was moved, immediately agreed to the man's proposal. Soon after the marriage, Xiaoping found out that she was pregnant. When she was pregnant, she struggled to go to work and often vomited in the company. Her husband felt sorry for her, so she let her feel at home to raise the baby and not go to work,' and promised Xiaoping every Send her 3000 pocket money. Xiaoping was also thinking that it would be inconvenient to go to work when she was pregnant, not to mention that she was running business, and she often ran around. After a long time, her body could not bear it. Later, she resigned from her job. After resigning, she felt at ease raising her baby at home, and occasionally learned to arranging flowers. When her husband came back from get off work, he prepared delicious hot dishes for him. Such a happy life passed for a while. After the child is born, there are more places to spend money, including milk powder, diapers, and daily expenses. Everything is money. Sometimes her husband thinks that she spends a little too much, but in fact she doesn't spend it at all, basically it is money on the family and the baby. Once, her baby suddenly caught a cold, so she took a taxi to take the child to the hospital. When she arrived at the hospital, she realized that the money was not enough, so she asked her husband to call 2,000. After a while, his husband only called 1,000. He felt that a few days ago You didn't just give the money, why do you want so much all of a sudden? Xiaoping felt very helpless, but the baby's body is more important. After seeing the doctor first, but fortunately, the baby was just a common cold, and there was no major problem. At this time, Xiaoping put down the stone in her heart, knowing that the baby was all right, she finally felt Much more steadfast. After returning home, Xiaoping wanted to take the baby to her mother's house to stay for a few days. She felt that the air in her mother's house was fresh, and the food at home was grown by her mother herself, and it was safe and healthy to eat. She asked her husband for 1,000 yuan. She was going to go back to her mother's house to live for a while tomorrow. At this time, her husband said that it would cost a lot to go to her mother's house. Let her go to her mother's house. At this time, Xiaoping cried aggrievedly. She felt that it was her husband who told her not to go to work. Her husband promised her to give her 3,000 per month, but now she doesn't want to give it at all. She felt that she was too stupid and believed too much what the man said, which led to the current situation. If she has her own job, she doesn't need her husband's consent at all. She can go wherever she wants. Once you reach out and ask others for it, the taste has already changed. Sometimes the most frightening thing about marriage is that what you do depends on the other person's face. A writer once wrote: "Love is a game. You must always be on a par with each other, evenly matched, in order to cherish each other in the long run." The most deadly thing in a marriage is that the other party makes progress and stays put. Therefore, a woman must be financially independent and ideologically independent. Only when you are independent in all aspects can you have more choices in your life. |