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Most women who have no status in their in-law's family have these two characteristics, and they will still suffer from cowardice no matter how much they pay. Text / When the good pregnant sister first got married, many girls held this kind of thought, "From now on, I would like to be with you, one house, two people, three meals, four seasons, four seas, three mountains and two hearts for a lifetime". But with the birth of a child, the psychological barrier between you and your in-laws will inevitably be broken. Only at this time can we thoroughly see the human heart and whether the marriage is happy or not. As the saying goes, happy marriages are different, but unhappy marriages have similarities. One of the most direct manifestations is whether there is status and the right to speak in the husband's family. And a woman with these two qualities will not be respected and liked by her in-laws no matter how much she pays. If you don't wake up in time, you will always be fussy at the in-law's house. Weak character In the vast majority of families, women's economic income directly determines family status. If you earn hundreds of thousands of dollars a year, you can just walk sideways at home, not to mention the looks of your in-laws. But sometimes, financial independence alone is not enough. If you have a weak personality and always give in and endure without a bottom line, you will not only have to endure hardships and losses in your husband's family, but your life will also be a mess. Recently, there was a popular post on a certain forum: One day when my wife was eating, she picked up meat from a vegetable dish and ate it. As a result, my husband hurriedly said, "Save some meat for Mom". Well, no eating, let's order a takeaway head office. Unexpectedly, her husband was immediately angry, and even posted that he didn't want to divorce because of the child. What's even more bizarre is that she even went to reply to the post, saying that her husband and mother-in-law were very hard, and she did not control her emotions well. Seeing this, it is estimated that some people will think that her family's conditions are not good, and her husband wants to save some money. However, this is not the case. The wife earns more than one million a year. It's just because the mother-in-law wants to increase her premium, she has to take care of the child alone, and does not allow a child-raising sister-in-law to be a nanny. Tsk tsk, earning so much is obviously to have more and better choices, but as a result, this wife forced herself into such a miserable situation. However, in real life, this is definitely not an exception. Some women are clearly brilliant at work, even powerful. But in the marriage, he lowered his eyebrows and pleaded with the eyes, and he was a humble bun, a proper bun. They think that they don't care about themselves and tolerate other people's unreasonable things in exchange for the satisfaction and pampering of their in-laws. As everyone knows, the human heart is not satisfied. Forbearance without bottom line and principle, gentleness and consideration, in the eyes of some people, is weak and easy to bully. They will only get worse and continue to pua you confidently. Giving personality There is a type of women who belong to the giving personality. In their opinion, the needs of their partners, children, in-laws and even concubines are more important than their own needs. He believes that only through constant efforts can he show his worth and gain the respect of his family. They often do not know how to refuse, and even if they feel embarrassed and hard, they still lower their bottom line and continue to pay in a low-key manner. As everyone knows, giving without boundaries and bottom lines will not be cherished, but will be taken for granted. And what's even more terrifying is that once it becomes an ingrained habit, they will become low self-esteem. Even if you are offended, you don't know it. In addition, they also like to worry, and can't help but want to be nice to others. But in many cases, it is just a kind of self-motivated payment. In the end, they feel very tired and never want to let themselves go. But others are so annoying and just want to escape. Senior nursery teacher, psychological consultant, author of original parenting comics, welcome to pay attention to [Good Pregnancy], you can find the answer to scientific parenting, maternal care, baby health, child growth and development you want to know |