After the child is scolded, the following manifestations are shown. Most of them lack love in their hearts, and they may form a pleasing personality in the future.

time:2023-01-29 author:Relationship
After the child is scolded, the following manifestations are shown. Most of them lack love in their hearts, and they may form a pleasing personality in the future.

As parents, we should all have this experience: no matter how good the mood is, when faced with a child's mistakes, sometimes you can't help but lose your temper. Especially when I was in a irritable mood, and the child was still messing around and rolling around, the anger suddenly came up, and the hurtful words blurted out. At this time, have you carefully observed the child's reaction? When they are scolded, will they choose to talk back to you directly, or will they remain silent and hurt their faces? The pictures in this article are all from the Internet, and the pictures and texts are irrelevant. According to psychologists, children's different reactions after being scolded can often tell their future personality. One of them needs to be more attentive, and it is possible to form a "pleasant personality" in the future.

From the behavior of the child after being scolded, can we see his future personality?

Experts believe that if children are often scolded by their parents, they tend to form some kind of conditioned reflex, and this instinctive reaction exposes their current mental state and choice preferences, and can see from it that they grow up later character. 1. If the child is silent after being scolded, there are usually two ways to interpret the child. One is that the child has deeply realized his own mistakes and dare not speak because of the "reasonable loss". This kind of child has a relatively high emotional intelligence. , often doing wrong things know how to self-reflection, do not justify do not blame the blame. The second is that the child may not find out where he is wrong, but is simply intimidated by the parent's high-pitched voice and angry expression. Therefore, I am afraid that I will not be able to make a timely response for a while, so I can only keep silent. It should be noted that if the parents are irritable, they often cannot help criticizing their children. Children who grow up in this family atmosphere will usually use silence to disguise themselves after being scolded. Because they always hint to their parents that "you are not good" and "you are doing this wrong", they lack self-confidence in their hearts, have too low self-evaluation, and have low self-esteem and sensitive personalities. Coupled with the methods of parenting, it is often easy to exacerbate the gap between parents and children, so that when children encounter things in the future, they will choose to digest and bear them silently, and are reluctant to talk to their parents, because he is afraid that his speech will be attacked again. ridicule. 2. If the child directly talks back to the parents, they may have to reply ten sentences, which often makes people feel abnormal headaches. In fact, sometimes you can't blame the child for being ignorant and rude. At this time, you must learn to think dialectically whether the child's rebuttal is reasonable. 1. If the child keeps interrupting the parent's speech, and blindly shirk the responsibility. This may be a sign of lack of education. Parents may wish to consider whether they usually do not play a good leading role in their children, and often interrupt their words, so they also have this bad habit. And pay more attention to cultivating children's sense of responsibility, and educate them not to just blindly shirk their responsibilities and talk back to their parents. 2. If the child has reason and evidence, the thinking logic is meticulous. Congratulations, it shows that your child is an assertive and confident child who knows how to protect their rights. When I am accused of being groundless, I can refute it loudly and output my own thoughts and opinions. Dare to express their own ideas and put forward their own needs, such children are more likely to be appreciated by others in the future. 3. If the child doesn't care about it and tries to make you happy, this signal may be relatively dangerous, and parents should take it to heart. Many times the more "heartless" people appear on the surface, the more negative black energy they have. Because children are not like adults, their brain regions responsible for controlling emotions are still fully developed, so children's emotional management ability is relatively poor in many cases. Happy or unhappy, the children are written directly on their faces, and adults can tell at a glance. After being scolded by adults, they will still be in a bad mood, not to mention children. And children have something special about themselves: in their world, self-evaluation is fed back from their parents. Recalling that when we were young, did we pay special attention to every word of our parents, and if we felt that they said a little bit more seriously, we would feel uncomfortable and want to find a place to hide. The emotions after being scolded are bad, and the feedback to parents is also direct - not dying in silence, but erupting in silence. But there is a type of child who is often scolded and doesn't care, and even tries to make you happy, for fear that their parents won't like them. Such children are often devoid of love in their hearts. They are always prone to falling into the whirlpool of losing the love of their parents, so they are extremely forbearing, for fear that they will make their parents unhappy. The day was extremely frustrating. It is mentioned in "Pleasantness is a Disease": "Many people who please people are no longer simply to please others, but to please others uncontrollably, subconsciously sacrifice themselves, and even become addicted to praise and recognition from others." If parents find that Children have this tendency, and they need to be vigilant to see if they usually lack love and care for their children, which causes them to always feel insecure in their hearts. 【Final summary】Parents raising their children should learn to do more communication work. Sometimes children are really naughty and difficult to teach, because their thinking may not keep up with their parents' thinking, and the communication work in the middle is not in place, so that the children do not understand the meaning of their parents. Blindly criticizing won't change anything. It's better to start with yourself, calm your emotions first, and then think about education. If you can't control it, at least lower your tone when criticizing your children. It's a big change for kids.
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