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"I've saved my money regularly, you lend me 100,000 first." Sister-in-law: I don't want to borrow it, I'm afraid that I will not repay it if I borrow it. I have wine and tea, if you have a story, come to me. Click "Follow" above, you are my person. 01 Shakespeare's "The Merchant of Venice": "The appearance is often completely inconsistent with the thing itself, and the world is easy to be deceived by the decoration on the surface." , Some people are thin-skinned, while others are thick-skinned. Thick-skinned people put on masks, often incarnations of actors, and are keen to act in front of others. Those who watch their performances may be fooled by them if they are a little careless. For example, some people are kind enough to help others, generously lend a helping hand when others are short of money, and lend out hundreds of thousands of dollars, but they don’t even get tens of thousands of dollars back. This kind of problem is not uncommon in reality. People who borrow money often play tricks and do whatever they can to borrow money. 02 When people are middle-aged, I really think it makes sense to say that "the loss should be done as soon as possible". After all, no one is born to understand the cruelty of reality and the darkness of human nature. If they have not suffered a loss, it is easy to regard everyone as a good person. In fact, not everyone is a good person. If you treat a bad person as a good person, you will definitely suffer. Before getting married, I suffered many losses, and the two experiences that left the deepest impression on me were one because of friends and the other because of relatives. I used to treat that friend as a best friend and a confidant, and I treated her well from the beginning, and when I found out that she was also kind to me, I treated her even more. I thought we would be good friends for a lifetime, but people didn't think so. All the performances they did had a purpose, just to let me relax my vigilance and then plot against me. One day she suddenly said that she needed the money urgently. I generously lent her my own money, and she swore that she would return it to me soon, but she disappeared from my world soon after, and no one was there, not to mention Said to pay. I don't believe that she will lie to me, I have been trying to excuse her, thinking that she should have something to hide, I believe she will come back to me sooner or later and give me a satisfactory answer. As a result, many years passed, and she never appeared again. Later, I found out about her through a friend and found that she is alive and well, so it is not difficult to prove that she has been lying to me. 03 I naively thought that friend was just an example, and I didn't believe that I would meet such a person again. If I think about it like this, I will definitely neglect my precautions, and as a result, I will be calculated by my relatives later. Looking back now, the routines of people like them are very similar. When they find that you are useful, they pretend to be kind to you, numb your nerves, and after defrauding your trust, they start to borrow money from the Internet, and then either play and disappear. , or play rascal. Because that relative acted as a rogue and didn't pay back the money, my parents were also implicated, and I was so angry that I realized for the first time that there was something wrong with my previous principles of dealing with others. From that day on, I stopped trusting people easily, especially those around me who pretended to be nice to me and then asked to lend money. I am very fortunate that I have revised my principles, otherwise I will definitely suffer another loss when I am calculated by my sister-in-law after marriage. It is impossible for her not to know that she needs money to support her family at any time, but she keeps all their family's money on a regular basis, and then she is unwilling to take out the money when she needs it, but runs to ask me to borrow money: "sister-in-law, my If you save the money on a regular basis, first lend me 100,000!" I told her decisively, "If you don't borrow it, I'm afraid that you won't be able to pay it back!" She began to instill her concept in me, saying that when her money expired She paid it back to me as soon as possible, saying that if she took out the money, she would lose a lot and would not taste any interest. I understood what she was talking about, but I still didn't let go: "You said it easily, you really have to pay back the money, can you still get it out? You have saved for 5 years, if I am short of 100,000 in the third year, What do you give me back? You will definitely say that it is too bad to take it out." She probably didn't expect that I would always refuse, so she became more and more impatient, and finally got angry with me: "You have spare money. Why don't you lend it to me?" She was disrespectful to me, and I didn't need to be polite to her. First, I drove her away, and then explicitly asked my husband not to lend her money, because she was too selfish and only thought of herself. Take advantage, regardless of other people's life or death. 04 All the people I met who asked me to borrow money were selfish people. There is a very sad fact that the people who ask me to borrow money are not short of money, and even richer than me, but they would rather ask me to borrow money than touch their own money, and they don’t know what their hearts are. The two losses I suffered in the past made me understand that those who have money and ask others to borrow money will basically never repay the money after they have borrowed the money. My mother-in-law didn't believe my experience, and she said a lot of bad things about me because I didn't lend the money to my sister-in-law. Moreover, in order to show that she is greater than me, she lent the money she used for retirement to her sister-in-law. She didn't believe that her own daughter would count on her, but the result was as I expected, when she needed the money, a penny She didn't want the money back. Every time she asked her sister-in-law for money, she cried and said she had no money. If everyone follows the principle of being a human being, can communicate with others in a courteous manner, and know how to be grateful, I would like to be nice to everyone. It’s a pity that this world is far from being as beautiful as we imagined. The darkness of human nature has always existed. If you don’t guard against others, others will guard against you; if you don’t count others, others will count on you. Chi, don't always play the role of an honest person who suffers. |