This Mid-Autumn Festival, because I refused my sister-in-law's family to come and play, I became the target of public criticism

time:2023-01-29 15:38:48source:novahomeonline.com author:Family diet
This Mid-Autumn Festival, because I refused my sister-in-law's family to come and play, I became the target of public criticism

Text / Good Pregnant Sister Yesterday, a friend who had been in retreat for a long time due to preparing for the exam, suddenly sent a message: This Mid-Autumn Festival is really bad, and now I am not in the mood to read. I hurriedly asked her what was going on, probably because she was too aggrieved, she complained gloomily, "My husband's sister suddenly called and said that she wanted to bring her family over to play. Since I have made a study plan, plus The exam time is almost here, so even though I feel a little embarrassed, I politely declined the arrival of my sister-in-law. No way, this exam is too important to me. In order to get on shore quickly, I read and study day and night. I listened to the class and even sent the two-year-old child to the early education center. Seeing that the exam day is getting closer and closer, I wish I could use it for two days. I really don’t want to waste too much time and energy because of someone. Others don’t understand the pain and suffering of my husband. On the contrary, the whole family thinks that I am too selfish, ignorant, and impersonal. Even my husband’s words are full of blame. In his opinion, my sister married away from home, okay? It’s easy to have time to go back to my mother’s house. No matter what the reason is, I shouldn’t refuse. What’s more, if it doesn’t take two or three days, it won’t affect my preparation for the exam at all. It’s better to say that my actions have affected the relationship between him and my sister. Family. I couldn't be more angry, so I went back directly, 'Then you ask for leave, don't go to work overtime. Just take care of it when you come, I don't want to wait and don't want to meddle in my own business'. I didn't expect the old man at home to say 'No, just a little more' A bowl of rice, accompany you to go out to play for a while, what a big deal. We are all family, why do you have to be so outrageous?' I don't know if it's okay to wait until the National Day. , but it's really inconvenient. I didn't expect it to be the public enemy of the whole family." After listening to my friend's words, I sighed in my heart. Although nowadays, in order to reduce unnecessary trouble, more and more young people have minimized contact with relatives. But the relationship between brothers and sisters can never be avoided. Therefore, we will more or less encounter the time when we are kidnapped by our family. For example, the eldest sister puts the child at your house and asks you to help take care of the baby; the nephew wants to go to school in the city and wants to live in your home; the brother-in-law wants to invest and asks the sister to borrow 100,000 yuan from you; You go to eat and go shopping... let it come or not? To borrow or not to borrow? To go or not to go? If you refuse, you will appear to be a little inhuman and not interesting; if you nod in agreement, you will be too tormented. In the end, many people clearly wanted to refuse, but out of face, they were even more afraid of hurting the relationship between siblings, so they chose to agree again and again. As everyone knows, not knowing how to refuse is actually a kind of internal friction for yourself, which will only make your life a mess. Because we always have to meet the requirements of others even if we make ourselves wronged and embarrassed, we will live very tired and miserable; because we don’t know how to refuse others’ too much interruption to us, we can’t put the time and emotion saved. When it comes to our own affairs; when encountering things that should be rejected, we choose to flatter ourselves against our will. In the end, it is only ourselves who are injured and lost. In the end, I want to say that life is my own, and sometimes I refuse euphemistically, in order to keep my life for myself, without any guilt. After all, when a person opens his mouth and asks, he has two kinds of answers prepared in his heart, so any answer you give him is expected by him.
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