The so-called breakup is just one party's heart is ashes, and the other party never forgets

time:2023-01-29 17:12:26source:novahomeonline.com author:Harmonious family
The so-called breakup is just one party's heart is ashes, and the other party never forgets

When I see a lot of people breaking up, they always say that they broke up peacefully, which means that there is no contradiction between the two, and they live on. I used to think that this kind of breakup was good, at least it left enough respect so that it wouldn't make everyone look too ugly. Until one day I saw a sentence in Master Yi Shu's book: You can be peaceful, but why break up? It's really enlightening. Yes, if the problem can be solved and the conflict can be resolved, what is the need for breaking up? Peaceful breakup is really the most hypocritical word, a relationship, whether it is love or resentment, there is always something left, but there is nothing, what is this? In the end, you spend time and energy trying to remember someone for no reason. Besides, if there is really peace, why would anyone be sad, immersed in a breakup and unable to get out? Therefore, in most of the "peaceful breakups", it is possible that one party is heartbroken, while the other party is obsessed with it. The so-called "peace" is just an excuse she found for herself to let go. I have seen such a couple. The two have been in love for three or four years, and they are both seriously in love with each other, and they are rushing to get married. The boys later think that this kind of love is too boring, so they break up. The girl is not entangled, and she also finds it boring. After three or four years, the love has entered a dull period, and the passion and sweetness before it has long been lost. She thought she could treat it plainly, but after breaking up, she was not plain. She couldn't adapt to the life after the breakup, and she couldn't imagine that she had developed so many habits related to him. He was like air, everywhere, and she wanted to forget it. Since she couldn't forget it, she decided to save it. But not all relationships have a chance to be redeemed. At that time, it was the man who proposed to break up. Faced with her need for recovery, the man would naturally not agree. She made a lot of efforts and tried many things, but they were all in vain, and her psychological status in the heart of her ex-boyfriend dropped again and again. After realizing that there was no hope of getting back together, she gave up trying and was sad for a long time. After the breakup, she gave herself a vacation. It was also during this vacation that she realized that her previous life was all revolving around another person and seldom considered herself. The three-day homestay life made her experience that she only considered her own life. , how free and happy. If you want to eat spicy food, you can eat spicy food, and you don't have to worry about his taste and choose slightly spicy; you can wear whatever you want, and you don't have to worry about his feelings anymore, and you don't have to worry about his unhappiness; you can date whomever you want, No more careful reporting. This is the lost, long-lost relaxation in love. And her originally unwilling heart has gradually calmed down during this journey, and she can even justify herself: If you can break up, it means it is not suitable, and there must be better and more suitable people waiting to meet her. I hope that everyone who talks about a peaceful breakup can find true peace in their hearts. There is no breakup that can be peaceful and not sad, but some people put their sadness on the surface, and some people hide it in their hearts. Falling in love is not easy, and getting out of a breakup is even more difficult, so instead of deceiving yourself that it is a peaceful breakup, it is better to find your true peace.
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