How to make good use of the desire to share and let the relationship continue to heat up? Getting the scale right is the key

time:2023-01-29 12:44:51source:novahomeonline.com author:Household hygiene
How to make good use of the desire to share and let the relationship continue to heat up? Getting the scale right is the key

Yesterday I told you about the reason why the desire to share between husband and wife disappeared after marriage. Someone in the background asked: "Teacher, I now know why the desire to share disappeared. How can I get back the desire to share?" In yesterday's article, The teacher told everyone that one of the reasons why the desire to share disappears is that the other party does not get your point, which is caused by the difference in thinking between men and women. Men's chats tend to be more problem-solving, while women's chats tend to be more about expressing their feelings. Therefore, when women share, they are more expressing their current feelings, and men's rational thinking, treats things more logically and pays attention to results. In many cases, it is not that the other party is unwilling to respond to your sharing, but the difference in thinking between the two people. Having said so much, everyone must be asking: how to solve such a situation? Today, the genius is here to chat with you, how can couples get back their desire to share? 1. Let the other person integrate into your life. Pay attention, what I am talking about here is to join your life, not to let him go to work and get off work with you every day, eat and exercise with you, even if you stay with the other person 24 hours a day, you can still have nothing. comminicate. If you want the other party to really join your life, you have to pay attention to one detail, that is, let the other party have the right to choose and let the other party have the right to speak. How to understand it? Let me give an example. For example, if you cook a hearty dinner at night, and then ask the man, "Is the meal delicious today?" Maybe the man will blurt out a few words: "Delicious." You toss After an afternoon, the response I finally received was extremely perfunctory. The reason for this is that when you ask a question to the other party, you have already said it to death, so that the other party can deal with you without thinking and choice. What if there was another way? You can say to a man, "I've been tossing around for an afternoon today and made a table of dishes. Come and try it and see how it tastes. Is there anything that needs to be improved?" In this way, will men not be able to blurt it out directly in the future? Just a few words to perfunctory you, this kind of communication will give men the right to speak. He can give you different opinions, the conversation between the two of you has increased, and you can also let the other person join your life, and the relationship will heat up, right? 2. Guide each other to share life Daily sharing is a joint effort of both parties, not a one-man show. It is not enough to let the other person join your life. Learn more about the other person's daily life and listen to the other person's voice. You may ask, what can I do if the other person is unwilling to share their daily life? Guidance at this time is very important. No one likes that when a person is chatting, they only focus on talking about their own topics and try to guide the other person to share their daily life, so as to stimulate a better desire to share. When sharing some daily life with the other party, you can add rhetorical questions. For example, when you are eating today, you find a very delicious restaurant, you can say to the man: "Have you eaten at noon? I found a delicious restaurant when I was eating today. Eat at the store." Use this to chat with the other person and let him share his life with you. You can also say to him when you encounter problems at work: "There is a problem with a task today. It's very difficult. I wonder if you have the same problems at work as I do?" Let the other party talk to him about himself. , by doing this, it was originally just that you shared some of your daily things into your concern for him. You not only achieved the purpose of talking, but also interacted with the man. The best of both worlds, isn't it? 3. What does it mean to pay attention to the sense of proportion? I saw a story on the Internet before, a man was very stressed at get off work every day, so every time he got off work, he would relieve the stress by watching videos. But every time I open the software, I can see that the woman has shared dozens of messy videos for him, and he will watch it, but the woman asks him why he doesn't reply. Originally, I wanted to relieve my mood by watching videos, and replying to videos made myself very tired. After the woman found out, she was unhappy and felt that she shared videos with men. The other party was perfunctory and didn't want to see it, but it turned out to be more presumptuous, and kept sharing, and then the man directly blocked the social account. Let me talk about my wife's sense of proportion in sharing this matter. She will also share videos with me, but pay attention, she is not sharing those meaningless videos on the Internet, she will share with me some topics that I will be interested in, such as the news that I follow, and some that have interests in my creation. Help knowledge and then say what she thinks. In the face of such sharing, I am very willing to see and reply to her. No matter what you do, you need to have a degree. Everyone will have a bad mood and negative energy. If your sharing makes the other party feel less happy. Or if you make the other party feel unsuitable, then you must pay attention to your sense of proportion, otherwise the other party will become more and more disgusted with you, and this relationship can easily lead to a crisis. Everyone wants to have their own relaxation space. Too much meaningless sharing will only add trouble to the other party. Therefore, while maintaining the desire to share, we must also grasp the proportions, and let the desire to share freely retract in order to be better. develop for a long time.
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