As a parent, you have to be "clear" in these two matters, otherwise you will end up working hard all your life but the evening will be bleak

time:2023-01-29 14:25:13source:novahomeonline.com author:Conjugal life
As a parent, you have to be "clear" in these two matters, otherwise you will end up working hard all your life but the evening will be bleak

Text / Good Pregnant Sister Today, I accidentally swiped such a video: a white-haired mother, showing reporters where she lives. Small utility room, not even a bed. In the cold winter, she could only sleep on a mat on the ground. When seeing such a shabby scene, the reporter asked what about her children? Why let the old mother live in such a place. The old mother said, "I have three sons. I originally lived in the second child's house, but I was kicked out by the second wife." It turned out that she and her wife had built three rooms before. Originally, each of the three brothers had a room, but the third child became the door-to-door son-in-law and voluntarily gave up the property. The second child was in trouble because of a crime, and it was not easy to find a daughter-in-law. Later, he finally met someone who was willing to marry him, but the requirement was to have two rooms. So, the old mother knelt down and begged the eldest daughter-in-law to press her fingerprints and agree to the exclusive agreement forged by the second child. Since the eldest daughter-in-law has a good heart, she agreed. As a result, I didn't expect that after the second child got married, he drove his mother from upstairs to downstairs, and then to the grocery store. Now, even this small place is not allowed to live in my mother. Obviously there are vacancies at home, but he insists on letting his mother rent a house outside. He even complained that his mother was partial to the boss. When hearing such rhetoric, the reporter was so angry that he bluntly said, "You have the greatest interests, and you are not a human being when you say such things." Alas, I have worked hard all my life, but when I get old, I don't even have a place to live. It's bleak enough to think about it. Sadly, in real life, there are definitely more than one or two such things. Where is the problem? Why do you pay so much, but your children are still not filial? Are they too selfish in their bones? In fact, the acquaintance of parents and children is fate and disaster. It depends entirely on whether the parents can understand these two things. Knowing how to let go at the right time and letting children learn to be independent when parents get along with their children is actually the most comfortable way to escape the 28 rule. No matter what, if the parents do everything and want to do everything for the child, then the child has nothing to do at all; if the parent achieves 8 points, then there is only 2 points left for the child to play; on the contrary, If the parent only does 2 points, then the child will complete the remaining 8 points. In other words, in the process of child growth, parents have to find the right way of parenting. Know how to let go at the right time and grasp the proportions and boundaries. Not just material satisfaction, but always want to control the child spiritually, always make all the decisions for the child. This is because, despite your escort, the child may have smooth sailing from an early age, and even study well and be admitted to a famous university. But as everyone knows, the child has already lost the ability to be independent. At the age when they should be mature, their minds are so fragile that they even suffer from "hollow disease". They will feel lost in the future, hopeless in life, and do not know what kind of person they should become. Over time, they don't even want to step into the society, but evade their old age at home. I have heard a saying that "everything you can sacrifice for your child is the most terrible gift a parent can give a child". If parents are particularly controlling and always intervene in everything about their children, then the more effort you put in, the more detrimental your children's growth will be. In the end, parents have worked hard all their lives, and the more they live, the more tired they are, but they cannot get the respect and gratitude of their children. Some children will retaliate by righteous gnawing, while others will choose to sever the relationship to cut off the control from their parents. It is impossible to achieve a balanced bowl of water, and to be partial to a family with many children is actually the most test of the wisdom of parents. Parents who can handle it clearly will work hard to make themselves qualified Duan Shui masters. But whatever one child has, other children have too. Although it is a bit difficult to do, it can at least reduce the harm to the child, and not make a child feel neglected and unwelcome. Not all parents, however, understand this obvious truth. In real life, there will always be some particularly eccentric parents. They especially like a child from a young age, especially when the child is an adult, this favoritism is more serious. No matter how good other children are to them, they will never warm that partial heart. As the saying goes, "The old man is like a dragon, he is poor to whomever", and the child who is favored is often the worst and most unfilial among the children. They will keep asking their parents for it until they drain it, and then abandon it cruelly. Senior nursery teacher, psychological consultant, author of original parenting comics, welcome to follow [Good Pregnancy], you can find the answer to scientific parenting, maternal care, baby health, and child growth and development you want to know!
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