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I helped my daughter with her grandson for 6 years, but she became an enemy because of her unthankful efforts. What is the reason and how to solve it? Influenced by traditional history and culture, most of the older generation now objectively dote on their children. Originally, this is also the natural feeling of people who enjoy family happiness, and it is understandable. However, the selfless dedication and love of many elderly people backfired, and some even had a very unhappy ending. No, there is such an old couple who helped their daughter with her grandson for 6 years, but in the end their efforts were not thankful, and the mother and daughter became enemies. What is the reason? How to solve it? Because the older generation has suffered a lot of hardships, they are very afraid of making their grandchildren suffer, so they dote on their children too much. He is used to making mistakes, which makes his grandson develop a lot of bad habits. Of course, the daughter will be very unhappy when she sees it, but when communicating with her mother, the old man doesn't take it seriously, and he is justifiable, sometimes even arrogant. In a rude way, he interfered with his daughter's education of her grandson, and the conflict arose. In fact, many good habits of children are cultivated from childhood, such as not partial eclipse, hygiene, politeness, love of learning, diligence and bravery, love of labor and so on. If children are allowed to develop bad habits such as not eating and only eating snacks, littering, not paying attention to civility, laziness, etc., it will definitely be detrimental to the growth of children, and these bad habits must be It is difficult to change. Because of the indulgence and favor of the old man, he spoiled the grandson, so the daughter's anger and opposition are understandable. As an old man, you should respect your daughter's opinion and adopt correct educational methods to cultivate grandchildren, instead of being stubborn. Not only do the elderly dote on their grandchildren too much, they often disagree with their daughters on the issue of raising and educating their children, and they often interfere with their daughters' education of their grandchildren in a rude way, which makes the daughter feel aggrieved and disgusted. It stands to reason that there is no conflict between parents and daughters, but sometimes there are big differences when it comes to educating children. For example, a daughter wants her child to read, write, and do homework well, while a mother wants her grandson to eat, drink, and play well. Invisibly, if the child has a reason and support for play, the daughter and son-in-law will of course be very unhappy, resulting in resentment. Nowadays, when many elderly people live with their children, due to the "generation gap" in the concept, rhythm, and way of life, they are not so harmonious and harmonious. In addition, two generations live together, and their personal space and time will be different. Feeling smaller and less, will feel less free, there are many inconveniences. Therefore, if parents inadvertently interfere and interfere with their daughters, sons-in-laws, and husbands and wives at certain times and places, then over time, some unpleasant psychological emotions will also arise. Originally, the parents were completely out of love, and they were free and relaxed. However, they helped their daughters with housework, and worked as unpaid and paid "nanny", but they ended up doing bad things with good intentions and thankless for their efforts. . In fact, facing this situation, there is no need to worry too much. The problem is easier to solve. After all, it is the old man who is here to help his daughter and son-in-law. Even if there are many shortcomings, the family should respect and understand each other. Therefore, parents can directly explain to their daughters and sons-in-law that they are not suitable for taking children at their daughter’s house, and they want to go back to their hometown and let them arrange their own arrangements, so that they will not be tired or angry. Come and have a look, just go as a relative. Or if you really need to stay to take care of your grandson, you can also live separately and no longer interfere with your daughter's family affairs. Pity the hearts of parents all over the world. They worked so hard to take care of their grandchildren for 6 years. It is indeed a pity that the mother and daughter became enemies. Resolve conflicts and return to good. What do you think? Personal opinion, comments are welcome, stay tuned. |