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Love VS Marriage: Love is not a necessary condition for marriage, but it is a magic weapon to "control people's hearts" A student once asked me this question: What is the difference between falling in love and getting married? Why do two people who are intimate in love look like the most familiar strangers after marriage? Love is undoubtedly sweet, but marriage is a practical lesson. There are countless firewood, rice, oil and salt in marriage, trivial life, pressure and responsibility. Attitudes toward educating children, younger generations, in-laws, health, and life can easily lead to conflicts, so how should we adjust our mentality? What about maintaining passion in marriage? Today I'm going to teach you a few tips for keeping sweetness between husband and wife. 1. A partner will always be a lover. Many married people will say something like this: "We are more and more like relatives". The life after marriage is to play with different mobile phones after get off work and do different things, even if you sleep in There was nothing to say on a bed. The conversation between husband and wife always revolves around children. The two are under the same roof but silent like strangers. I think of the concept of marriage mentioned by Huang Lei before. He opposes the husband and wife becoming relatives, and believes that parents and children are the real relatives, but the wife will always be a lover. No matter what happens, relatives will accept each other unconditionally, but love is not, love needs to be managed. Turning love into family is actually a cover for the loss of love. Because I don't want to keep passion, I don't want to prepare surprises for the other party, and I don't want to take care of this hard-won emotion, so I bring "sublimation". For family" top hat. In essence, it is nothing more than unwillingness to give love. The foundation of two people entering marriage is because of love, and it should be love. Only when you treat your partner as a lover will you not ask for it for granted, and you will be willing to better maintain this marriage. 2. Recalling the past and planning for the two people to join hands in marriage in the future, there will definitely be many good memories during this period, two people can browse the albums of the past together, listen to the CDs they love together in the past, and recall the good times in the past. Reminisce about your acquaintance, acquaintance, and love. Let’s work together to plan a better marriage life in the future. Couples in this process need each other more than ever, because this is your common memory and common future. Couples who plan for the future often pay attention to their own feelings, care about their own problems, and are eager to tell each other about their needs and worries about their future life, so that the other party can comfort them, because the unknown makes us worry. Therefore, the two talents should set goals together, talk about what kind of married life they want in the future, plan the future together, and face the unknown life together. Encourage each other to fulfill previously unfulfilled wishes, such as going out to sea together, watching a sunrise, sunset together, learning a new skill together, etc. A shared desire will make two people more inseparable from each other. 3. Thank you for your lover's company. We often mention the word, but when we enter marriage, we realize that there is nothing happier than the company of a loved one. There is a DINK couple in our community. They are in their 40s. They can be seen walking in the park hand in hand every evening. The two often chat about something, and then smile at each other. In the impression, the two of them get along very sweetly. Women like to play mahjong, they make appointments whenever they have time, and often do not go home after dinner time, men will call her, and women will always say, "Thank you, come to remind me to eat again". Once I couldn't help but ask her: "Do you always say thank you to your husband?" The woman smiled and said, "We all say thank you to strangers for their help, let alone my husband. You should also thank you. Wife, you have been worrying about this family for you, don’t you think?” We are accustomed to thank strangers for their help, but we accept the sacrifices of our loved ones as a matter of course. Thinking about it carefully, it is not easy for two people to go from being strangers to falling in love with each other, and then to choose to overcome difficulties and enter marriage step by step. It should be thankful for the lover's company for so long, thank the lover for their dedication to the family, and thank each other. Even after the quarrel, he is still persistent. The accumulation of thanks is also the accumulation of love. There is a long road in life, and you should cherish each other when you have them. 4. Small romances in life Social media is full of romantic events of a large number of young people, but it is neglected that there is actually a need for romance between couples. Day after day, the life of chai, rice, oil and salt tends to be stable and realistic, and some occasional little romances in life can stir up a little ripple in the ordinary life. Bring her a bunch of favorite flowers on the way back from grocery shopping, give him a pair of fancy shoes on the anniversary, and watch a play that they both love. Taking the initiative to create romance will make married life happier. Of course, romance can also be a loving hug, and a hug is an act of love. When your partner is in a low mood, you can give him a warm hug when he is happy. Even if you have just fought a few words, a hug can resolve the displeasure in each other's hearts. Romance can also be a compliment to everyday life. For example, your clothes today are very good for your temperament, and the braised hairtail you made today is better than when you were in love before, which is really good. Appreciate your lover more, praise each other, let the other party feel your concern for him, and maintain a happy and warm marriage life with each other's tolerance and company. Life is abstract, but the people in life are the concrete of loving each other. Love is also abstract, but because there are people who love each other, there is interest in life. A feeling slowly precipitated in the washing of the years, and walking towards the end of life hand in hand is the best interpretation of romance. |