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Psychology: People's betrayal is related to the strength of the order motivation For everyone, order is a symbol of civilization, a shackle that binds one's own behavior, a protection for oneself, and a bond between people. Why do you say that? The development of society and the replacement of the times are a kind of replacement of the rules of the old and new order. Although people are bound by order, social order is also educating people, so that people can understand how they can live a better life and avoid some behaviors that can bring disaster to themselves. If people are out of order, not only will people become disoriented, but people will not be able to make others understand themselves more deeply and recognize themselves more. In layman's terms, if there is no order in this society, if people have no reverence for order, this society will become a society full of violence, indifference, and dark desires, and people will find it difficult to survive in such a society. Difficult to live well. When analyzing the origin of the betrayal from the perspective of order, I believe that people's betrayal is related to the strength of the motivation of order. The so-called order motivation is people's concern and awe for the social order. People with strong order motives will not betray their marriage because of social moral constraints and the constraints of marital responsibility. They will also adopt a positive attitude to deal with problems between husband and wife because of their strong sense of social responsibility and family responsibility. . People with weak order motives are selfish, selfish, and arrogant. They believe that everything in the world should be centered on themselves, and everyone they come into contact with exists to satisfy their own desires. In addition, people with weak order motives lack the courage and self-confidence to solve marital problems, and they are cowards who want to escape when they encounter problems. Because of these two characteristics of people with weak order motives, when faced with problems between husband and wife, such people will resort to betrayal to avoid problems. Sisk (pseudonym) is a male friend I met when I was an emotional counselor, and he is a person with weak order motivation. The relationship between Sisk and his wife was very good at first, however, after the birth of the child, Sisk and his wife's relationship became worse and worse. Why does this happen? It was because Sisk's wife devoted all her energy to the child, ignoring Sisk's feelings. What about Sisk? He could have used the child to establish a deeper relationship with his wife, but he did not think of this. He paranoidly believed that his wife did not love him as much as before. In this state of mind, Sisk's emotional needs became more and more intense, and he also had a strong desire for extramarital emotions. When Sisk found me, he was already in a state of divorce, because he failed to control his inner desire and betrayed the marriage. Friends, do you understand the importance of order motives to people from Sisk's case? The opposite sex outside of marriage can give married boyfriends and girlfriends a different sense of happiness, pleasure, and excitement. However, because extramarital emotions do not conform to the social order and marriage order, they are not recognized by the public and society. Therefore, once people betrayed Marriage will not only make you notorious, but also lose the children you care about and the marriage. Extramarital relationships are like poppies. They seem beautiful, but they are actually full of toxins, causing people to sink into false happiness. To live better, people must strengthen their own motivation for order. The way to enhance is very simple, just need friends to find the direction that makes their life better from these three questions. Question 1: Is marriage more important or extramarital heterosexuality more important? Question 2: Love and marriage involve responsibility, loyalty, and morality. Why do the opposite sex who say "love you" do not have these elements? Question 3: What is the price of betrayal, and what benefits will you bring to yourself by actively solving marital problems? If friends think marriage is more important, please skip question 2 and think about the answer to question 3. If friends think that the opposite sex outside of marriage is more important, please focus on question 2. The price of betrayal is that your partner leaves, your children look down on you, people around you treat yourself as a laughing stock, and your career may be affected. After encountering a husband and wife problem, if friends can actively solve the problem of husband and wife with the heart of love, then the husband and wife After the problem is resolved, friends can feel happiness and satisfaction again in the good posture of their partner. Extramarital relationships involve three elements: infidelity, poor quality, and lack of sense of responsibility. Under the influence of these three elements, even if friends enter marriage with the opposite sex outside of marriage, it is impossible to live well. Because you don't trust the opposite sex outside of marriage, and the opposite sex outside of marriage doesn't trust you either. Because you don't have a sense of responsibility to your family, nor do you have the opposite sex outside of marriage. Because, you will betray the marriage when the couple has problems, and the opposite sex will do the same outside of marriage. The marriage between you is full of betrayal and misfortune, so walking with the opposite sex outside of marriage is destined to be a lifetime of pain. I hope that my friends can seriously reflect on the questions I have said, and carefully consider them, and do not choose to betray marriage because of the influence of the psychological comparison. Because, no matter how bad the partner is, at least the partner really cares about the family, and the opposite sex outside of marriage is absolutely incomparable on this point. |