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Profit-seeking and laziness are the key reasons why people choose to betray and live poorly There are profit-seeking and laziness in people's nature. Under the influence of these two natures, people do not realize the importance of seeking others rather than themselves, and people are greatly dependent on external factors. And when people rely entirely on external factors for some kind of success, it is easy for people to become conceited and lazy, and not willing to spend time improving their independence. Analyze people's betrayal from the perspective of profit-seeking and laziness. I think they are the key reasons why people choose to betray and live poorly. Why do you say that? Hector (pseudonym) does not have a good relationship with his wife, because his wife has not only made more and more demands on him since she gave birth to a child, but also turned a blind eye to his demands. In the face of his wife's indifference and rebuke, Hector chose to avoid the problem of husband and wife, and in the stage of escaping the problem, Hector was tempted by the opposite sex outside of marriage and betrayed the marriage. After the betrayal, Hector felt that living with an extramarital lover could offset the pain in marriage and allow him to enjoy the joy and happiness that he had never enjoyed before. The other is his true love. After Hector's betrayal was discovered by his wife, Hector's wife chose to divorce without saying a word. Hector, who was divorced, was not only in no pain, but rather complacent. He thought that he could finally spend his life hand in hand with his extramarital lover. However, when he and his extramarital lover really entered into marriage, he regretted more and more and suffered more and more. Because the extramarital lover is stricter than his ex-wife, almost restricting his freedom. He had resisted and complained, but his extramarital lover was unmoved at all. The reason for this situation was because the extramarital lover was worried that Hector would betray him as he betrayed his ex-wife. In such a bad situation, Hector, like his previous marriages, chose to avoid problems between husband and wife by traveling and working overtime. And his escape, not only did not achieve the same effect as before, on the contrary, it stimulated a stronger suspicion of extramarital lover, and under the influence of such strong suspicion, extramarital lover often went to his work unit to make trouble, almost making him Lost job. When Hector consulted me, he asked me: "Teacher, why did she change so much before and after marriage?" Friends, do you know the reason? Hector asked this question for three reasons. The first reason is that Hector's betrayal of marriage makes his extramarital lover feel insecure. The second reason is that Hector's evasion behavior is the key to the source of all these misfortunes. The third reason is that Hector is a person who just wants to enjoy a good life and is unwilling to face bad problems. In other words, Hector is a person who is controlled by profit-seeking and laziness. In his life with his ex-wife, if Hector could recognize why his ex-wife nagged and reprimanded him, he would be able to understand his ex-wife's emotional needs. After understanding the emotional needs of his ex-wife, if Hector can try his best to meet it, the ex-wife will treat Hector in a better attitude. Hector will not betray the marriage in the "good" of his ex-wife, so that Live worse. When an extramarital lover and a married person go together, it is just a kind of emotional or mutual satisfaction of interests, and the two people do not really have a sense of trust. The reason why I say this is because of the betrayal of married people, and because of the behavior of extramarital lovers without moral consciousness. Without a sense of trust in a marriage, it is difficult to spend a lifetime together. Hector didn't realize this, and he still chose to avoid the problem, which would only make the couple's problem worse. Profit-seeking will cause married people to be influenced by hedonic and selfish psychology. They cannot see the "good" of their lover, but can only see the "bad" of their lover, and thus have a great prejudice against their lover and marriage. If, at this stage, they meet an extra-marital opposite sex who is good to them, married people will betray their marriage and seek emotional satisfaction outside of marriage under the influence of profit-seeking and laziness. I won't say much about the price of betrayal, I think most married boyfriends and girlfriends know it. Whether the opposite sex outside of marriage loves themselves or not, I won't say much. As long as friends remember that love involves morality, responsibility, loyalty, and trust, it will be enough. In this class, I will focus on talking to my friends about how to manage a marriage well and how to forget the extra-marital opposite sex that makes my heart flutter. Profit-seeking and laziness are the main reasons why people do not want to make progress. From this point of view, if people want to manage their marriage well, they must treat their lovers with love. The so-called lover's heart is to care more about the lover's life, be more considerate of the lover's efforts and hard work for the family, children, and themselves, respect the lover's suggestions, understand the lover's difficulty, and say more love words in daily life. With words of praise, win the hearts of lovers. If friends can do these things, then the lover's emotional needs can be met. And if the lover's emotional needs are met, the lover will be better and better to the friends, and the friends will be able to feel happiness and joy again from the marriage. Just imagine, when friends manage their marriage better and better, will they still care about the opposite sex outside of marriage? From the perspective of profit-seeking, I think that when friends' marriages are getting happier, friends will not betray their marriage and hurt their lovers for the sake of the opposite sex outside of marriage, but consciously forget about the opposite sex outside of marriage and do not take the initiative. provoke extramarital heterosexuality. It is easy to betray a marriage, but it is difficult to save it. Getting married is easy, but managing a good marriage is hard. No matter how good the relationship is before marriage, if you do not actively solve the problems of husband and wife after marriage, the relationship between husband and wife will be wiped out sooner or later. Friends, keep this in mind, don't choose to betray, please treat the lover who is dedicated to family, children, and yourself. |