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Having a second child is not a hot-headed thing. You must carefully consider whether to have a parent or not, and then make a decision. With the opening of the two-child policy, everyone began to let go of their hands and feet because of this policy, hoping to have a healthy baby, and seeing another one in someone else's family, they began to be eager to try it. Many of them blindly follow suit. Yes, with the opening of the two-child policy, many parents and mothers are faced with the choice to find a "companion" for their baby, which may also be due to the pressure of the previous generation and the influence of traditional concepts. It is more likely that he simply wants a child, so that he can have company when he is alone. Parents can't accompany their children for life, but "brothers" can! But this is the case, parents and mothers should also be treated with caution and consider carefully, don't just slap the table and give birth to a second child! So should I have a second child? Mom and Dad, don't be impulsive, think carefully first. Regardless of our desire and expectation for a second child, we inadvertently ask ourselves, is it really necessary to have a second child? With the continuous improvement of the current social level, people's social pressure is also increasing day by day. Some families are exhausted when raising one child, let alone having two or three children. But some families are not tired of it, thinking that it is a good thing to have a family full of children and grandchildren. So what kind of family do you belong to? In fact, this requires many considerations. If the family's economic conditions are not very good, the second child is likely to only reduce your quality of life. If the economic conditions are good, ask yourself whether you have enough time to accompany your child. A child’s good growth cannot be without the company of parents. So only by figuring out your own situation can you have a clear understanding of it. If you are still entangled, then take a look at the following five-point analysis. 1. Do you know the importance of childhood playmates? Many families often have only one child, but because parents are busy with work, most people choose to "entrust" the children to their grandparents, or to other acquaintances to help them raise them, because there is no one to accompany them for a long time, which indirectly makes these children become children. "left behind children". At this time, the company that "siblings" bring them can often give them warmth, they can play "play house" together, do homework together, go to school together, and play pranks together. But these things cannot be given to parents who are busy with work. And the two children play more, which will help their future communication and cooperation ability. Second, children are your support when you are old! Now that the social pressure is so great, when the only child becomes an adult, he not only has to bear the responsibility of raising the child, but also bear the responsibility of supporting the parents. If one party does not take good care of it, family conflicts will inevitably arise. Therefore, having a second child can reduce the pension burden of the only child, so the phrase "raising children to prevent old age" is by no means casual. Even if this sentence seems funny now, when I am old and sick, the only ones who can shed tears at the bedside are my children. 3. Are you ready to bear the cost of raising children? For individuals and families, raising children is a long-term "investment". For some families who want to have a second child, the cost of childbirth, raising costs, and education costs will make them prohibitive. Tuition fees, school district housing and other educational expenses can make a family unable to make ends meet, seriously affect the quality of life, and let oneself live for the children all his life. 4. Does it really have to be a boy? China's feudal system has lasted for thousands of years. Even now, some families' "preference of sons to daughters" is deeply rooted in the bone marrow. If it is not for the son, it will never give up, especially in some rural families, if it is not a boy, it will continue to give birth. Is it going to continue like this? ? In fact, boys and girls are the same. If it is just for a pair of "dragon and phoenix", just to make up a "good" word, then in the end, you will only get yourself into a quagmire. So you need to understand why you want a second child. 5. The second child is by no means your way to make up for regrets! There is no regret medicine in life. Some parents are busy with work and have no time to accompany their children. Now that people are middle-aged, they want a second child to make up for what they owe their children, but what will "Da Bao" think in such a way? Parents have given a lot of time and energy to "Er Treasure" and poured more love into "Er Treasure". Wouldn't this hurt the heart of "Da Bao" even more? Now that you know that you have not fully fulfilled your responsibilities as a parent to your children, why not take advantage of it now? In fact, both boys and girls are the same. The boy is the "man" of the family, and the daughter is the "little padded jacket" of the family. No matter whether you want a second child or not, what matters more is your inner and economic situation. Although it is said that "raising children to prevent old age, more children are more blessed", but some African countries are still struggling. Be clear about your own financial ability and ask yourself whether you can give your children a bright future, instead of "sheep-herding" education and letting them fend for themselves, which will only lead to a vicious circle. Therefore, if you have enough funds and preparations, you will have confidence. If you just really want another child, and you are ready to face difficulties in the future, then you can do it. Although you have two children, your life may be more difficult than before, but looking at the current situation Two children, willingly, in pain and happy. In general, whether it's one or two, parents need to think realistically and ask themselves, is this really what you want? |