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The first woman to get a divorce after a caesarean section gives birth: what is ruining your marriage? 01 I saw a hot news on Weibo: The woman first filed for divorce after giving birth by caesarean section. August 15, Hebei. Recently, a woman shared a video of going to divorce just after confinement, which caused heated discussion among netizens. In the video, the woman came to the marriage registration office with relevant documents. The accompanying text said: If you meet a troublesome mother-in-law, why should you be a woman? I must be tolerant, tolerant, look after children, and earn money to support my family. The woman said: She gave birth to her daughter by caesarean section. Only an 80-year-old grandmother waited on my confinement every day. "Divorce is the first thing to do after confinement", after reading the woman's sharing, all the netizens praised one after another: Nice job! What is the meaning of our marriage? It's not that I will take on everything alone, but you have to take on it with me. Having children is a matter of two people, not me alone. I finally passed away and gave birth to a child. When I was the most vulnerable physically and psychologically, what I waited for was not careful care and distress, but a cold and selfish ignorance, an inaction husband, and a provocateur. My mother-in-law, she also dislikes having a daughter. What is the use of such a marriage? I can especially understand why the woman in the video wants to divorce so decisively. What exactly ruined her marriage? She is an inaction husband and a troublesome mother-in-law. Having a child and confinement is the mirror of marriage. Maybe in the past, there was still a glimmer of hope for marriage, thinking that after giving birth to a child, they would treat you better in the face of the child; but after the child was born, not only did they not take care of them, but they intensified, and they saw everything clearly for a while. Even if you are divorced, you can raise your own daughter in the future, so as not to have an inactive husband and a troublesome mother-in-law to block you. The gap between people is really quite big. If you marry the wrong person and marry the right person, your situation in marriage is very different. I remember that when I gave birth to my first child, who would take care of my confinement, my husband had discussed it with me in advance. Of course, I hope my mother came to help. He also bought the ticket in advance and took the initiative to call my mother to invite her over. As for my mother-in-law, because she didn't take care of my confinement herself, she sent clothes and quilts for the child when I was about to give birth. After the child was born, the mother-in-law also gave a big red envelope of 10,000 yuan. Don't mention how comfortable it is in confinement, my mother takes care of me, my husband brings back a lot of things every day, and he buys what I want to eat, everything is subject to me. No one dared to make me angry, my husband would accept my negative emotions and give necessary comfort. The second child is also my mother taking care of my confinement, because I only have the opportunity to spend more time with my mother when I have a baby. The mother-in-law gave a red envelope of 8,000 yuan, and prepared clothes, quilts, blankets, etc. for the children as usual. My husband is also very grateful to my mother and bought her gold jewelry in return. The two confinement periods were very comfortable, and there was no postpartum depression at all. With a caring husband and a particularly comfortable confinement period, I could have any troubles, and my mother and my husband could solve all my troubles. Why do some women feel depressed after giving birth? Because of her efforts, no one will understand her, and no one understands that she needs comfort and care psychologically. Some people think that she is just giving birth to a child, and they don't know what happened to her. Even if your husband is not caring, and your mother-in-law makes you uncomfortable, then your marriage will change from disappointment to despair. What is the use of such a marriage? You are confinement and they treat you like this, will it get better in the future? Obviously not possible. Why do you have to endure it? Why do you have to bear all the misfortunes? Why can't you enjoy a good life and treatment, and how are you worse than others? The woman at the beginning of 02 had a caesarean section. Women who have given birth to a child know how much a mother suffers from a "caesarean section". If you have a natural birth, you can be assisted out of bed on the day after giving birth, and you will be hospitalized for three days; but if you have a caesarean section, you will not be able to get out of bed, and the wound will be very painful, and the hospitalization will last for a week. She said, "I'm not being hypocritical, I really can't move." Of course she couldn't move, but even so, no one could take care of her. It was said that the mother-in-law picked the matter, but in the final analysis, it was the husband who was incompetent. An inaction husband caused her marriage relationship to fall into a quagmire. How to do? If communication cannot solve the problem, then there is only one way out. Some people may think that the child is too young to bear it. Think about how you have just given birth, and they treat you like this when you are so young. Do you think it will be okay in the future? It is impossible to live a good marriage like this. If you want to live it, you are the only one who can bear everything. But what is the use of such a marriage? On the surface, you are giving your child a complete home, but is there love? Maintaining an empty marriage, for you and your children, okay? Divorced or divorced, the woman at the beginning is particularly brave. As she said: Why as a woman must I tolerate, tolerate, look after children, and earn money to support my family? You bear everything by yourself, a man still quarrels with you without any effort, and your mother-in-law doesn't feel bad for you and thinks that you gave birth to a daughter. Why keep a marriage like this? Save yourself to suffer? Marriage is not necessarily for happiness, but divorce must be, especially if she is divorced after confinement, she has already seen it through and she is completely desperate. 03 Some people also said, why can't you see whether the person you marry is a human or a dog until you have a child? Isn't this harming your own child? In fact, what is the nature of a man, you can't pretend in life. In your marriage, you can see whether your mother-in-law is a good person and whether your husband is a good husband or not. But when I don't have children, I will let myself endure it. I always have a trace of expectations for the future life, and I think it may be better in the future. Especially when you are pregnant, you will have a fluke mentality and feel that you will be fine if you have a baby. Here I want to tell you a truth: don’t take chances with your marriage, if they treat you badly when you are not pregnant, your marriage relationship, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship are very bad, then you should consider divorce . You can also not divorce, but you must not have children. Never expect that someone who is usually bad to you will be good to you when you have a baby. In normal times, what kind of him has already shown his true shape, why do you want to test it by giving birth to a child? So, don't expect a bad marriage, thinking that having a baby will be fine. Divorce is nothing to be afraid of, anyway, you can't count on anyone in your marriage, so divorce will make you feel more relaxed, and there will be no more irrelevant people to block you. It's not that the days will be sad, but you won't be so wronged. Treat yourself well and love your children well. As for a bad marriage, a man who doesn't do anything, a mother-in-law who picks things up, just throw it away. I saw this sentence in a book: "I don't believe that there are people in this world who have never cried bitterly in the middle of the night. Those others who are tough, independent, decisive, light-hearted, and light-hearted in front of us, It may be that people exchanged pain and tears in countless dark nights." The woman who divorced after confinement had cried many times behind her back, but she still resolutely divorced. Very brave, but also for the future happiness of myself and my children, I wish her well. Today's topic: Can you understand why she divorced? Welcome to leave a message. - END - ★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing warm emotional things in this world. |